Mouths over Telepathy.

God gave us mouths and not telepathy. I can't read  your mind and you can't read mine.

That has been my most recent lesson and one I have been learning for over 5 years now. Yes, perhaps over 5 years. I know my flaws. One of them is that I often assume that people are telepathic OR have a higher level of common sense.

I assume that people should know better. I assume that they should know what is okay and what is not okay with me BUT as my history would have it, that has backfired into some of the worst arguments I've ever had.

I believe that life lessons are taught just like school. We learn everything in stages, till we have this portfolio that proves that we are ready for the world.

If we were telepathic, I suppose we wouldn't need mouths, but we are not telepathic  and so, we do need mouths. We have mouths to speak our minds and in turn, develop courage and confidence in our own personal dogmas.  I think I have realized that I have expectations of people and at times, too much. I expect common sense, consideration, thoughtfulness, as I in turn would exude. The big problem here is imposing the values that you esteem others with, onto these people. Treating someone one way is not guarantee that they will reciprocate your courtesies .

In the general spectrum, I am more open, talkative and sociable than the average individual, however I have found in my own experience, that I seriously struggle with moderation. In my personal life, I either say things to the fullest extent of the emotion riding behind it or a recoil into bitter silence. 

My concern has always been how to say exactly how I feel  to ensuring that the individual whom I am expressing myself to, gets exactly how I feel.

In developing a strong bond with a woman who I can consider a sister, I have realized that we would quarrel like dogs but then be right back at deep friendship. Its not a hypocritical thing though- its a breakdown of communication. When we are having disagreements we never say hurtful things, we clearly just don't get along and unfortunately due to my occasional bitter silence it ends up being an emotional game of  The Price Is Right.

Truth is, nobody will know your mind as you do. Some people can be pretty spot on yes. Others make you feel like you're a cat and they're the big hand coming out of the sky designed to stroke your back the wrong way. If you say nothing-don't expect anyone to know. Some people are fortunate enough to have persons who care to crawl into their emotional cubby hole and draw them out of their sorrows but there is more sea and land past the Horizon and so more people- more people who don't give damn if you're pissed or hurt. Sad, but true. The world can often be too busy to slow down for the injured, emotionally and otherwise.

But no fear, your mouth is there- to speak your mind and set you free. 

When I was a child and still to this day, I wonder if purple to me is purple to everyone else. If we all see the same thing ....When others were wishing for super powers, I was wishing for a day into the minds of other people. I wanted to know if their mind was like my mind and I have a very colourful and crazy mind. I didn't want to be alone in my uniqueness. I wanted someone besides me to understand. All this to say, that you do not know what someone else's mind is like. You don't know if they process like you do and at the fore front of all of this is that, people can't read your mind.

Been hearing this whole week; Out of the mouth flows the abundance of the heart. It truly has a deeper meaning but you get the picture. Your mouth is a gateway to your mind. If your mouth is closed-you shut the gateway to your mind/heart. I suppose thats why people have said silence is golden. I'm more inclined to think silence is deadly like a two edge sword guarding the gateway of the mouth and so your mind...but whatever.

Be mindful, we have other portals of entry, just like how a woman may say nothing but her eyes can speak volumes.

Mouth over telepathy.
Communication over assumptions.
Represent, express and defend yourself- you were given the tools to do. I've learnt to be more active in the protection of my heart and mind. I leave little to change. If I wana tell you the dog is red- I stay away from saying the dog is coloured. 

Say what you mean, mean what you say but don't say it mean.
Silence never worn a speech contest and I wouldn't advise leaving so fat a chance out there with others,to guess YOUR emotions. Mouths over telepathy. 
Fact over Fiction. 
Clarification over Speculation.
Stella Over and Out...

Love you loads.Keep it sweet.Keep it Soulful..