You know, we women have a way about us.This "deserving of perfection"way about us. Fairy Tales may have done us wrong but some men are very prince like. They may not offer the full package but they do come pretty close enough and here are some things that you may have over-looked but are worthy of your gratitude.
1. He is a peaceful man.
This does not mean that he is allergic to talking or averse to social interaction but he is simply a peace man. He doesn't excite himself into anger and threaten/hit you. He has a calm and clear thinking spirit. He can steer away wrathe easily without bursting into violent tendancies and that is a prize because many men have socially constructed communication barriers which make expressing emotion difficult for them, leading many to vent their emotions in unconventional and unsafe ways.
2.He is considerate.
It is becoming more and more fashionable for persons to be as self serving as possible. Some how the world has managed to make looking solely after your own interest "attractive" but when it comes to a practical relationship, one will see that selfishness is far from sexy. A man who considers the intricate details of your wellbeing is a blessing. He is concerned with your health, mental and physical. He takes you into account when making his decisions as he understands that they can have an impact on you.
3.He does right by you.
Because he is considerate, he is able to do right by you. He is able to remain faithful and keep focused despite the roaring sea of attractive woman out there. There will always be someone better in some way than you however, HE RESPECTS YOU and so can keep strong and avoid temptation.
4.He is honest.
No man or woman is perfect. No matter the expectations set up in another's mind about us ,we are subject to make mistakes. An honest man understands that he is not perfect. He understands that you deserve the truth no matter how bad, sad, twisted or nasty the truth may be. He understands that you deserve choice. Many people shy away from the truth so as to selfishly keep people in their lives that they know would not stay if they knew the truth about their actions. An honest man is strong enough to understand that there may be repurcussions to his actions and that the woman he claims to love deserves the right to choose him or to choose to separate herself from him and any mistakes he has made which she does not believe she will be able to comfortably live with.
5.A focused Man.
Many men out there are losing their heads and will power to social media, celebrities and musicans who portray a certain lifestyle. If a celebrity tweets that its not cool to open doors for your woman, then their woman will be open doors for herself. If someone popular says its uncool for a man to cook, then they are prepared to count their ribs till their lady fixes them a plate. THIS is a weak man. You need a focused man and a man focused on the right values. A man who is positive and unwaivering despite outward pressures. Though he is strong and focused ,he is still flexible and open to constructive criticism which will only serve to make him better.
6. He understands himself and his wallet.
A money-wise man is a gift. He understands his worth without money and so, doesn't feel the need to impress or keep friends with extravagant spending. He knows that he is being smart and not cheap when he keeps away from bars and friends who look for him in social gatherings because they see savings on his face. A good man understands that there are things in his life that will need his financial intervention, like his household,his family and his education and is able to prioritize his buck. He doesn't have to have much but knowing how to turn a little into a lot without being mizerly is something worth being thankful for. He also gifts you tokens of appreciation. He doesn't have to cough up hundreds but recalls that you love this chocolate and somehow can't help but do something sweet for you.
7. A praying man.
A man who knows how to put his knees down to serve the LORD is a gift. He is a humble man and a blessing in your life. You don't have to explain christian-value based decisions to a God fearing man because his relationship with the Lord helps him to see where you are coming from.
Some women seem so moved by tatoos,smoking,abs, fitteds and Jordans that I've gotten the impression that this is a what a good man looks like to many. I maintain that there will be storms in life, purposed to make us stronger and wiser and a praying man is an asset to a praying woman.
There are many traits that men are exhibiting daily that are worthy of our thanks. They may not be perfect but they are definitely doing something right. Its not easily to be good and do good when the tug to do otherwise and objectify women is go strong. I am more vigilante of our over looked supermen and I encourage other women to observe more of the positive in men as well.
1. He is a peaceful man.
This does not mean that he is allergic to talking or averse to social interaction but he is simply a peace man. He doesn't excite himself into anger and threaten/hit you. He has a calm and clear thinking spirit. He can steer away wrathe easily without bursting into violent tendancies and that is a prize because many men have socially constructed communication barriers which make expressing emotion difficult for them, leading many to vent their emotions in unconventional and unsafe ways.
2.He is considerate.
It is becoming more and more fashionable for persons to be as self serving as possible. Some how the world has managed to make looking solely after your own interest "attractive" but when it comes to a practical relationship, one will see that selfishness is far from sexy. A man who considers the intricate details of your wellbeing is a blessing. He is concerned with your health, mental and physical. He takes you into account when making his decisions as he understands that they can have an impact on you.
3.He does right by you.
Because he is considerate, he is able to do right by you. He is able to remain faithful and keep focused despite the roaring sea of attractive woman out there. There will always be someone better in some way than you however, HE RESPECTS YOU and so can keep strong and avoid temptation.
4.He is honest.
No man or woman is perfect. No matter the expectations set up in another's mind about us ,we are subject to make mistakes. An honest man understands that he is not perfect. He understands that you deserve the truth no matter how bad, sad, twisted or nasty the truth may be. He understands that you deserve choice. Many people shy away from the truth so as to selfishly keep people in their lives that they know would not stay if they knew the truth about their actions. An honest man is strong enough to understand that there may be repurcussions to his actions and that the woman he claims to love deserves the right to choose him or to choose to separate herself from him and any mistakes he has made which she does not believe she will be able to comfortably live with.
5.A focused Man.
Many men out there are losing their heads and will power to social media, celebrities and musicans who portray a certain lifestyle. If a celebrity tweets that its not cool to open doors for your woman, then their woman will be open doors for herself. If someone popular says its uncool for a man to cook, then they are prepared to count their ribs till their lady fixes them a plate. THIS is a weak man. You need a focused man and a man focused on the right values. A man who is positive and unwaivering despite outward pressures. Though he is strong and focused ,he is still flexible and open to constructive criticism which will only serve to make him better.
6. He understands himself and his wallet.
A money-wise man is a gift. He understands his worth without money and so, doesn't feel the need to impress or keep friends with extravagant spending. He knows that he is being smart and not cheap when he keeps away from bars and friends who look for him in social gatherings because they see savings on his face. A good man understands that there are things in his life that will need his financial intervention, like his household,his family and his education and is able to prioritize his buck. He doesn't have to have much but knowing how to turn a little into a lot without being mizerly is something worth being thankful for. He also gifts you tokens of appreciation. He doesn't have to cough up hundreds but recalls that you love this chocolate and somehow can't help but do something sweet for you.
7. A praying man.
A man who knows how to put his knees down to serve the LORD is a gift. He is a humble man and a blessing in your life. You don't have to explain christian-value based decisions to a God fearing man because his relationship with the Lord helps him to see where you are coming from.
Some women seem so moved by tatoos,smoking,abs, fitteds and Jordans that I've gotten the impression that this is a what a good man looks like to many. I maintain that there will be storms in life, purposed to make us stronger and wiser and a praying man is an asset to a praying woman.
There are many traits that men are exhibiting daily that are worthy of our thanks. They may not be perfect but they are definitely doing something right. Its not easily to be good and do good when the tug to do otherwise and objectify women is go strong. I am more vigilante of our over looked supermen and I encourage other women to observe more of the positive in men as well.
A very interesting and well thought out observation. Uve list several good points but one that really catchs my attention, which is and wud still be going on in some women (* quote some women*). Those which seek the shamar moore and ll cool j material and over look the cool and humbe guy with the colourful not shallow attitude. But agian its human instinct and i will be biased abt it .its a two side coin and i hope women be mindfull too. Looking forward to the blog of a (good women)
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