This is a bit funny, but unfortunately, relationship statuses are not exactly clear cut anymore. They should be but they're not always. When you go to fill out an important form for document application its either Married or Single. There isn't a slot for boyfriend, "its complicated", "we vibing", "we chilling", or whatever other "friendzone..not really in the friendzone" titles people come up with these days.
Till you're seriously moving forward to stable commitment..i.e Marriage..or if "common-law" marriage is your thing *shrug*, then your relationship can still dissolve. Someone once said...till a man makes you his wife, he has done nothing for you, so stop idolizing boyfriends. She had a point. However there are men who have made women their wives and have done nothing for them all the same. Whatever the case, I think some people are in limbo when it comes to whether they're single or taken.
We're all protecting our hearts and relationships from social media. Love is happening under cover. "Ain't nobody business". Right??.
WRONG!
Actually, I guess its a bit of both. I honestly just wanted to oppose for opposition sake. You see its nobody's business but yours, but a person has to know where they stand. How are you suppose to know just how much harder your have to work towards your goal if you have no idea where you are right now.I mean..c'mon.
The thing is..this limbo status gives great convenience to the weaker party involved. If they suddenly become serious, then they move on up. If they mess up and want to cut you off...you guys were nothing in their books. Some guys have positioned women on their neck and had their way with them completely. By the time she gets all doe-y eyed he tosses her..calling her all sorts of names as if he wasn't romancing her with promises of their beautiful future together.
THIS IS A CASE WHERE THE GUY IS (physically)SINGLE AND THE GIRL IS (emotionally)TAKEN.
Women have been taking the blinders off too. They can smell a player a mile away. They can smell his car and the $500 is his back pocket. They can smell his thoughts, and that that's his budget for her for the next two days and he's hoping to cash in on some action by then. She has calculated how to suck his cash down to his secret savings account by pulling out her "wifey" game and in the very last moments..when his wallet is going into the red zone ,She says, "bye, its not me..its you..you don't seem serious"
THIS IS A SINGLE WOMAN WHO WANTS TO BE TAKEN BUT REFUSES TO BE TAKEN FOR A FOOL.She figured he was trying to play her..so she decided to play him.
The game out there is dangerous. Everybody's always talking about there's more fish in the sea. Has anyone ever realized that the sea is bloody murderous out there? Killer waves..deep sea. No land for miles .And the fish! Cheaters, Horn-dogs, Ratchets, Users, Players, Druggies.Fish with no interest in broadening their minds. No interest in intellectual conversation or incorporating God into the relationship. The Sea is rough. We're not perfect-none of us, but the sea is rough.
You see, people like me, we enjoy sitting on the beach, good book, great bikini. Shades the size of basketballs. If we want fish..its with a side of chips. And if we want "fish fish", we're going to the shore to find those who wana grow legs and leave the sea. Not the beached or washed up ones but I trust you get the point.
If you don't know whether you're single or taken. You need to do a little introspection. Who are you inclined towards?Do you feel an ounce of guilt when chilling with other persons? If you feel like you're being unfaithful or cheating on someone that you're not technically with, then you have passed being single. They may have taken your heart *aww!* or not -_-. Take your heart back from that thieving no-good. Stealing your heart and no relationship for that?? aa!
It is possible to be taken by multiple persons. Your heart tugs either which way for many persons. Its just the bond you all have or the memories you guys have shared. But being seriously "TAKEN" is by one person. It is a pronouncement. I am with you. You are with me, OFFICIALLY.
The aspiration of some singles is to at some point be taken by the right person. You may be in this dating/getting to know each other stage limbo before the formality and that is normal but some persons get the sense that there is no formality to come. Yall gon be vibing from now till yall die, if you let him/ her. You gona be cooking and cleaning and getting manicures at 65 with no your nail tech looking at your bare hands. Men gona be hitting on you when you 90 and you gona have to pull out the, "I have a boyfriend card"..and he's gona pull out the .."so what".
You're either in or out. On your way in or on your way out. There are two stable sections. Single or taken. Any where between that is action space. Space to move. Move up. Step down. Step up or Step aside, ain't nobody got time to wash and iron clothes for a man at 50 after raising his kids and he's still waiting to see if you worth the commitment. He has taken your life already.
Like I said guys, You're either in or out.On your way in or on your way out. TWO STABLE SECTIONS. Single or taken.Move up or Step down. Step up or Step aside. There are persons begging to cherish the person you cannot yet identify as being valuable. So if you not ready, Step aside and let them be loved.
Soulfully Committed
....to you guys.
Fish ..chips and sexy lips:)
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