St.Lucian Slang Word- STOOSH.
Stoosh has various definitions and is usually used to refer to females. It is a verb which expresses an attitude where woman behave like they are better/above certain things. They may portray themselves as uptight or unwilling to sink to levels that they deem below them. When used is St. Lucian culture, it often holds a negative connotation however, I hope that this article opens your mind on the various types of stoosh behaviour and the benefits of it for both women AND men.
Over the years it seemed as if "stoosh" women have been left to sit under a dark,sad cloud. Whilst taking a walk between offices today, I stumbled upon the thoughts that I am about to share with you and I realized that being stoosh has its benefits.
I am not uptight or arrogant. I would not classify myself as "stoosh" with the connotation that St. Lucians usually use it. However, a woman's charm is really in her resistance. Rejection is a tough pill to swallow for some St.Lucian men and stoosh is the combat word of retaliation.
I have come to notice a very primitive and animalistic trait in some men. Many have even admitted to it. Some men are in for the kill. Many enjoy the thrill of the chase. They love their egos more than they care for you. They are not really after you as a person.They want to knock down your walls and feel "bigger" as a man for knowing that they were able to "get through" to you.
Stoosh puts women in a category where men who can't deal with the word "NO" are eliminated quick. This is not their one stop shop. They do not have what it takes to battle wits with a female who simply won't boil over when he whips out his "best lines/ CHAT".
The men who stick around longer realize that these women require that they put in a lot more effort than what they might usually do for any other girl. He,then has to bring out the big guns. He is challenged by her. This may appeal to some men, as what many really want is a strong minded woman, who won't give herself away to any Tom, Dick and Harry. Others only intend to up their games for so long. They can't keep up with her standards and these are the guys who hoped to stick around and do right by her till she would in turn give in to him either attention or sex.
To be stoosh is a good thing. Some stoosh girls do get played. Don't get me wrong and stoosh is not the typical look of fake hair, fake nails, fake eye lashes, fake skin, fake eyeballs, fake legs.Stoosh is also not a mannequin standing in the corner of an event refusing to talk to you unless your bank account can bring her 12 cousins and home girls out of the ghetto to live the flashy life . No. Being stoosh isn't about thinking your better than Any ONE else, its about knowing YOURSELF and what you deserve. Being stoosh is saying no, I don't want that. It just doesn't cut it.
Some people are offended when other set standards as to what they deserve, especially men. Isn't it just dumb that a girl should settle for anything just because you don't find her attractive enough to want better.
Its like sitting to have Pot luck dinner. If you don't want something, its okay to say you'll pass on it. You don't have to sit and scarf down something you don't want. Who are you pleasing anyway?
Stoosh girls win because being "EASY" is hard for them and nothing that came easy in this world was worth it...
Ladies, save yourself for someone worthwhile, at the very least and pray that God takes precedence over all your decisions especially love because men are not looking to wife the woman that they have shared with their neighbours. They are not looking to have their daughters raised by women who have no values or concept of modesty. They are not looking for women who are push overs. A man is looking for a woman strong enough to be his right hand through life with God as their guide, a woman who can stand up and say no when no is necessary.
Women are priding themselves on being compliant and agreeing with what is said even if it makes absolutely no sense and thats 100 % Crap.
You have a mind and it's okay to use it. Believe it or not that's what many men are looking for,before they dish out respect for you. They're waiting to see if you are worth it.
Women want to be treated like treasure and men are looking for treasure but a man will only know if he has found a treasure based on if a woman treats herself like she is precious. If you don't value yourself, it will be hard for him or anyone for that matter to do the same. If you have very little respect for yourself, people will believe that that is the acceptable standard with you.
Nobody tries to do the complicated "wassup homie" handshake with the queen. Why? because they know that something like that simply isn't acceptable. Instead its a series of curtsies and bows and maybe a lil homeboy handshake and shoulder thrusting inside palace walls when everyone gets comfortable.
All I'm saying is that by raising your standards you encourage persons to do the same. They think higher /highly of you and you challenge them to be better. Last night, I watched Untold Stories( great T.V show in St. Lucia exploring very serious "Untold stories" and matters affecting society) . Anyway, they were interviewing someone in Prison. He spoke of his addiction to crack-cocaine. He said that when he was going around robbing people and places the only thing that was only his mind was drugs...drugs and "Jombie-girls"...
Yes, he said Jombie-girls. Girls who would hang around and have sex with you for about $20.
Forgive me, but I laughed. $20 is "no money". $20 is not a fair contribution towards rent or anything. $20 is a number 1 at K.F.C- Two piece chicken, regular soda and fries. with about $3 change.
No. I do not live at K.F.C, I just happened to remember that.
Now I do understand that there are NUMEROUS societal ills that breed that level of desperation however I believe raising standards would open doors that might alleviate some of these burdens.I am not saying that a female increase her sex price from $20 to $50- No. What I am saying is that such behaviours should be made a thing of the past. How about not having sex with thugs. How about not getting beat up when they get angry. How about not selling yourself or passing your body around like a blunt... How about the better things, the finer things, the things that would make you happy, the sort of happiness that doesn't stay out the door when you lay in your bed to sleep at nights,if there is even a bed to begin with.
What is possible for one, is possible for all, for there are people around the world doing more, with less than what you have.
Its sad to walk past and see a group of men hurl slurs at women in their presence however see another walking, heels, purpose, modesty dressed and then brush themselves down to utter "Good afternoon, MY LADY, I must say you're so beautiful"..
"The pedestal upon which you hold yourself is as high as people will look. Those who are small with no vision will try to bring a high pedestal low. Those who are small with a big vision will aspire to grow and those who are respectful and purposed with appreciate that that your pedestal was not founded on ego, but values and self respect"- L. Duncan/ Soulfully Stella
"A woman's charm is in her resistance"
Over the years it seemed as if "stoosh" women have been left to sit under a dark,sad cloud. Whilst taking a walk between offices today, I stumbled upon the thoughts that I am about to share with you and I realized that being stoosh has its benefits.
I am not uptight or arrogant. I would not classify myself as "stoosh" with the connotation that St. Lucians usually use it. However, a woman's charm is really in her resistance. Rejection is a tough pill to swallow for some St.Lucian men and stoosh is the combat word of retaliation.
I have come to notice a very primitive and animalistic trait in some men. Many have even admitted to it. Some men are in for the kill. Many enjoy the thrill of the chase. They love their egos more than they care for you. They are not really after you as a person.They want to knock down your walls and feel "bigger" as a man for knowing that they were able to "get through" to you.
Stoosh puts women in a category where men who can't deal with the word "NO" are eliminated quick. This is not their one stop shop. They do not have what it takes to battle wits with a female who simply won't boil over when he whips out his "best lines/ CHAT".
The men who stick around longer realize that these women require that they put in a lot more effort than what they might usually do for any other girl. He,then has to bring out the big guns. He is challenged by her. This may appeal to some men, as what many really want is a strong minded woman, who won't give herself away to any Tom, Dick and Harry. Others only intend to up their games for so long. They can't keep up with her standards and these are the guys who hoped to stick around and do right by her till she would in turn give in to him either attention or sex.
To be stoosh is a good thing. Some stoosh girls do get played. Don't get me wrong and stoosh is not the typical look of fake hair, fake nails, fake eye lashes, fake skin, fake eyeballs, fake legs.Stoosh is also not a mannequin standing in the corner of an event refusing to talk to you unless your bank account can bring her 12 cousins and home girls out of the ghetto to live the flashy life . No. Being stoosh isn't about thinking your better than Any ONE else, its about knowing YOURSELF and what you deserve. Being stoosh is saying no, I don't want that. It just doesn't cut it.
Some people are offended when other set standards as to what they deserve, especially men. Isn't it just dumb that a girl should settle for anything just because you don't find her attractive enough to want better.
Its like sitting to have Pot luck dinner. If you don't want something, its okay to say you'll pass on it. You don't have to sit and scarf down something you don't want. Who are you pleasing anyway?
Stoosh girls win because being "EASY" is hard for them and nothing that came easy in this world was worth it...
Ladies, save yourself for someone worthwhile, at the very least and pray that God takes precedence over all your decisions especially love because men are not looking to wife the woman that they have shared with their neighbours. They are not looking to have their daughters raised by women who have no values or concept of modesty. They are not looking for women who are push overs. A man is looking for a woman strong enough to be his right hand through life with God as their guide, a woman who can stand up and say no when no is necessary.
Women are priding themselves on being compliant and agreeing with what is said even if it makes absolutely no sense and thats 100 % Crap.
You have a mind and it's okay to use it. Believe it or not that's what many men are looking for,before they dish out respect for you. They're waiting to see if you are worth it.
Women want to be treated like treasure and men are looking for treasure but a man will only know if he has found a treasure based on if a woman treats herself like she is precious. If you don't value yourself, it will be hard for him or anyone for that matter to do the same. If you have very little respect for yourself, people will believe that that is the acceptable standard with you.
Nobody tries to do the complicated "wassup homie" handshake with the queen. Why? because they know that something like that simply isn't acceptable. Instead its a series of curtsies and bows and maybe a lil homeboy handshake and shoulder thrusting inside palace walls when everyone gets comfortable.
All I'm saying is that by raising your standards you encourage persons to do the same. They think higher /highly of you and you challenge them to be better. Last night, I watched Untold Stories( great T.V show in St. Lucia exploring very serious "Untold stories" and matters affecting society) . Anyway, they were interviewing someone in Prison. He spoke of his addiction to crack-cocaine. He said that when he was going around robbing people and places the only thing that was only his mind was drugs...drugs and "Jombie-girls"...
Yes, he said Jombie-girls. Girls who would hang around and have sex with you for about $20.
Forgive me, but I laughed. $20 is "no money". $20 is not a fair contribution towards rent or anything. $20 is a number 1 at K.F.C- Two piece chicken, regular soda and fries. with about $3 change.
No. I do not live at K.F.C, I just happened to remember that.
Now I do understand that there are NUMEROUS societal ills that breed that level of desperation however I believe raising standards would open doors that might alleviate some of these burdens.I am not saying that a female increase her sex price from $20 to $50- No. What I am saying is that such behaviours should be made a thing of the past. How about not having sex with thugs. How about not getting beat up when they get angry. How about not selling yourself or passing your body around like a blunt... How about the better things, the finer things, the things that would make you happy, the sort of happiness that doesn't stay out the door when you lay in your bed to sleep at nights,if there is even a bed to begin with.
What is possible for one, is possible for all, for there are people around the world doing more, with less than what you have.
Its sad to walk past and see a group of men hurl slurs at women in their presence however see another walking, heels, purpose, modesty dressed and then brush themselves down to utter "Good afternoon, MY LADY, I must say you're so beautiful"..
"The pedestal upon which you hold yourself is as high as people will look. Those who are small with no vision will try to bring a high pedestal low. Those who are small with a big vision will aspire to grow and those who are respectful and purposed with appreciate that that your pedestal was not founded on ego, but values and self respect"- L. Duncan/ Soulfully Stella
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