Today, I would like to say Happy Father's day to all Fathers.
Yes there is a vast difference between being a "sperm donor" and being a Father-I understand.
I have been blessed with the gift of an amazing father who has taken care of me, provided all my needs and many of my wants and has been a fine example of loving care, committment and how love for family can lead you to work harder than at times is humanly possible.
I do not have the personal experience of being abandoned by my father or having my mother tell me any negative stories about my father because of her unresolved issues with him for abandoning the family.
Like I said, I have been blessed with good Dad.
This however, does not mean that I do not understand what life without a father can be like..as my dad at times has been away for a very long time.Like many other people.I do not exist in a perfect family unit. I am aware of and do encounter many dysfunctional family units, with either one parent and problems or both parents and problems.
All this aside, I thought it would be important to share this very important message this Fathers' Day as my birthday was yesterday.
You don't deserve to celebrate your birthday (day of your birth) because you do not always behave like you're appreciative of life....said no one ever. Why then is it fair to steal away this very special day from men.
Ladies, yes, raising a family on your own is beyond hard. God never designed for one person to bear the strain alone. To whom much is given, much is expected and I believe that it is the fear of such great responsibility that has caused some men to shirk their responsibility as fathers.
I am able to sit and compare the difference between what the good father's do and what those who don't do "anything"..do.
A frustrated woman who receives $200 a month in childsupport will still equate this contribution to their child's life as nothing,when really she is expressing that it is nothing in comparison to what she has to do.
Being a good father requires a lot of sacrifice not simply for the child but for the entire family unit. Many generations of men have been bred into Stoic individuals. They must be strong, void of (feminine) emotion, like sensitivity and "drama". There are unspoken rules on what a man should be like..and I don't know about you but i think that that is a lot of pressure especially where individuality is involved.
We expect ALOT from men and that is expected as God set them to be leaders in their own right. To whom much is given, much is expected. Just like the parable of the sower ,I believe there are Father's less timid to invest themselves into their responsibility and as a result, we see the tenfold multiplying in their family lives. Just like the parable, there are those who feel like they have been given less and whatever they have is simply not enough to share.
Some men feel like they are not smart enough to help their children with their homework.
Not financially able enough to surpass needs and give wants.
Not emotionally flexible enough to share in the rollercoaster ride of being parents with their wife or girlfriend and so they opt to do nothing instead. All because they feel like their contribution would be too small to be deemed significant. However, to all the men out there battling these insecurities, rest assured, that more than the material things that you could offer, what is valued is your time.
Time to pick your children up from school.
Time to share a quick lesson.
Time to be available to instill a level of security at home, that you're there just in case you are needed.
Time to cook for your family or take them out.
Time to put plasters on cuts
and capture our attention with the fizzing of hydrogen peroxide on open wounds.
There are many Father's who have gone beyond the call of duty and have done so sooo exceptionally that we're under the impression that is it easy, but after my dad's knee surgery, I came to realize how hard he works and just how much effort he puts in to make things which are really hard, appear so easy.
I hope that today is used to do what it was set aside to do, and that is, to appreciate fathers. Every woman who has given birth to a child, has endured the pain. They may be terrible mothers. Those who leave children at home to party. Those who do not nurture their children and break them down emotionally however the prestigious title is never taken aware from them. So, today, lets take time to appreciate the great dads and pray that those who are lacking in the greatness department are inspired with a spirit of courage to take on the rewarding responsibility that is Fatherhood
Soulfully Stella.
Yes there is a vast difference between being a "sperm donor" and being a Father-I understand.
I have been blessed with the gift of an amazing father who has taken care of me, provided all my needs and many of my wants and has been a fine example of loving care, committment and how love for family can lead you to work harder than at times is humanly possible.
I do not have the personal experience of being abandoned by my father or having my mother tell me any negative stories about my father because of her unresolved issues with him for abandoning the family.
Like I said, I have been blessed with good Dad.
This however, does not mean that I do not understand what life without a father can be like..as my dad at times has been away for a very long time.Like many other people.I do not exist in a perfect family unit. I am aware of and do encounter many dysfunctional family units, with either one parent and problems or both parents and problems.
All this aside, I thought it would be important to share this very important message this Fathers' Day as my birthday was yesterday.
You don't deserve to celebrate your birthday (day of your birth) because you do not always behave like you're appreciative of life....said no one ever. Why then is it fair to steal away this very special day from men.
Ladies, yes, raising a family on your own is beyond hard. God never designed for one person to bear the strain alone. To whom much is given, much is expected and I believe that it is the fear of such great responsibility that has caused some men to shirk their responsibility as fathers.
I am able to sit and compare the difference between what the good father's do and what those who don't do "anything"..do.
A frustrated woman who receives $200 a month in childsupport will still equate this contribution to their child's life as nothing,when really she is expressing that it is nothing in comparison to what she has to do.
Being a good father requires a lot of sacrifice not simply for the child but for the entire family unit. Many generations of men have been bred into Stoic individuals. They must be strong, void of (feminine) emotion, like sensitivity and "drama". There are unspoken rules on what a man should be like..and I don't know about you but i think that that is a lot of pressure especially where individuality is involved.
We expect ALOT from men and that is expected as God set them to be leaders in their own right. To whom much is given, much is expected. Just like the parable of the sower ,I believe there are Father's less timid to invest themselves into their responsibility and as a result, we see the tenfold multiplying in their family lives. Just like the parable, there are those who feel like they have been given less and whatever they have is simply not enough to share.
Some men feel like they are not smart enough to help their children with their homework.
Not financially able enough to surpass needs and give wants.
Not emotionally flexible enough to share in the rollercoaster ride of being parents with their wife or girlfriend and so they opt to do nothing instead. All because they feel like their contribution would be too small to be deemed significant. However, to all the men out there battling these insecurities, rest assured, that more than the material things that you could offer, what is valued is your time.
Time to pick your children up from school.
Time to share a quick lesson.
Time to be available to instill a level of security at home, that you're there just in case you are needed.
Time to cook for your family or take them out.
Time to put plasters on cuts
and capture our attention with the fizzing of hydrogen peroxide on open wounds.
There are many Father's who have gone beyond the call of duty and have done so sooo exceptionally that we're under the impression that is it easy, but after my dad's knee surgery, I came to realize how hard he works and just how much effort he puts in to make things which are really hard, appear so easy.
I hope that today is used to do what it was set aside to do, and that is, to appreciate fathers. Every woman who has given birth to a child, has endured the pain. They may be terrible mothers. Those who leave children at home to party. Those who do not nurture their children and break them down emotionally however the prestigious title is never taken aware from them. So, today, lets take time to appreciate the great dads and pray that those who are lacking in the greatness department are inspired with a spirit of courage to take on the rewarding responsibility that is Fatherhood
Soulfully Stella.
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