It has been 28 days since the last time I posted. I'm not sure if anyone noticed. It wasn't deliberate,I assure you. Each day I woke up with the intent to post and I somehow seemed to miss the mark. I am not a rehearsed blogger,with days on which I can guarantee that something young,hip and entertaining will be out (though I have seriously considered it). I work with inspiration. It was what started the blog and it is what sustains it.
For 28 days I lamented. I wonder if my brain child, that is,Soulfully Stella was dying. I started posts but couldn't finish. I was clogging up my drafts box, clogging up my internal expressions chamber and losing the attention of the persons who were so kind enough as to give me a listening ear.
I was too busy tuning in to myself. I needed to hear something.I needed to be moved by something.I needed to be inspired enough to share...and so I lay there..for 28 days without complete thoughts moving through my brain.
Most women have a tendency to talk a lot however that does not mean that we do not value listening. If anything we have been able to equate the necessary power to both talking and listening. To talk without ever listening is an ignorant behaviour, to listen without ever at one point expressing yourself is a senseless behaviour.
On Soulfully Stella, I talk..and for a while, I couldn't really talk because I wasn't able to listen properly and by that I mean listen to myself.
I wondered,as I suppose is only natural, if people actually listened to what I had to say.Therefore, I had taken a break from the talking to touch base with myself.
Today, I sat in the company of someone I would most likely take a bullet for. This person went on to say, "this is usually the part where I ask you how your day was" and then proceeded to ask me. I was moved that someone took interest in what I had to say before the urge to say it had arose. It indicated a level of concern that was out of this world and very appreciated. I know it sounds like I'm exaggerating but believe me-I'm not.
Think about this. On any given day, any one person may have a million and one concerns. We all have several things that matter to us,things that deserve our attention. Being self centred is easy, but this person took the time to ask and genuinely care about what I had to say .
Women value listening. I for one,have always been particular to express that "yes, I realize you can hear me, but are you listening".
Its easy to hear.It is more challenging to listen. It requires focus and concerted effort to process the words and ideas that are coming out of someone's mind and mouth and to digest them as your own.
If I sit and listen to you speak about something.By listening, I am creating a personal image of what you have mentioned. I am activating my empathy.I am putting myself in your shoes or at the very least trying to look at the world from you current angle.
I get worked up when I hear people from the opposite gender speak about how women nag or that we are complicated.
Yes some women do, but there is purpose to all that is said. When you choose to simply HEAR, you will...of course just hear senseless words riled up by amplified and unnecessary emotion. Her expression is pointless and so uncalled for. When you as a man choose to listen..you will come to understand the..
WHAT about her..
The WHY about her..
The HOW about her.
You will know what may have prompted her agitation. You know why she is feeling what she is feeling and you will know how she feels about feeling how she feels.
Take a breath. Its seems convoluted I know, but truly simple and I'll give you an example of just how simple it is.
She had a hard day. (that's what's wrong)
Coffee fell on her laptop.She couldn't finish a report due for a particular time (that's the -why- something is wrong)
She feels so stressed and disappointed.(these are her feelings towards the situation)
Of course, women are not robots and its rare that her words may be so few and answer precisely what you ask but she's more than likely going to give you the three part series and you're only going to be able to discern if you listen.
Listening in an invaluable skill. Imagine being at the airport and not hearing the last call for your flight. Imagine not tuning in to listen about a catastrophic hurricane headed to your home town. Hearing is one thing but listening holds the true value.
Both men and woman who are are interested in marriage would treasure someone who knows how to listen. If you are going to spend a lifetime with someone and be happy, you're going to have to listen to their ever changing needs. Listening is what makes friendships work and gives people that feeling of belonging.
They spoke, they were listened to, they were understood and accepted.
Listen to your intuition.Listen to the voice of God directing your paths.
Listening quiets the mind and silences the static that threatens to steal your peace away.I began losing my inner voice when I started placing way too much emphasis on the voices outside me. It truly started to kill my dream for this blog. I placed more importance on whether people were taking an interest in what I had to say as oppose to listening to my spirit and what I have been felt moved to do. It was only because I felt confirmation within myself at first that I embarked. I knew that whether or not people made it known, that I had an impact.
I don't quite feel like I've have gone back to my usual flow but I'm honestly just happy that I got back on the horse and chose not to let Soulfully Stella die.
Right now,several things are speaking to me-all demanding that I listen. The battery on this laptop is saying- I'm going to die soon. My eye bags are saying that I might be a cross breed between a raccoon and a human and the time is saying that I need to hit the hay.
I guess instead of the AA meetings. We could have SS meeting (soulfully stella..eh???no?)
Either way I want to thank you guys for listening. I promise good reads are coming.
Like my dad says, take time to listen to what people are saying to you.It may just be their last message to you before they depart this life.
Soulfully Attentive to your reading needs:)
For 28 days I lamented. I wonder if my brain child, that is,Soulfully Stella was dying. I started posts but couldn't finish. I was clogging up my drafts box, clogging up my internal expressions chamber and losing the attention of the persons who were so kind enough as to give me a listening ear.
I was too busy tuning in to myself. I needed to hear something.I needed to be moved by something.I needed to be inspired enough to share...and so I lay there..for 28 days without complete thoughts moving through my brain.
Most women have a tendency to talk a lot however that does not mean that we do not value listening. If anything we have been able to equate the necessary power to both talking and listening. To talk without ever listening is an ignorant behaviour, to listen without ever at one point expressing yourself is a senseless behaviour.
On Soulfully Stella, I talk..and for a while, I couldn't really talk because I wasn't able to listen properly and by that I mean listen to myself.
I wondered,as I suppose is only natural, if people actually listened to what I had to say.Therefore, I had taken a break from the talking to touch base with myself.
Today, I sat in the company of someone I would most likely take a bullet for. This person went on to say, "this is usually the part where I ask you how your day was" and then proceeded to ask me. I was moved that someone took interest in what I had to say before the urge to say it had arose. It indicated a level of concern that was out of this world and very appreciated. I know it sounds like I'm exaggerating but believe me-I'm not.
Think about this. On any given day, any one person may have a million and one concerns. We all have several things that matter to us,things that deserve our attention. Being self centred is easy, but this person took the time to ask and genuinely care about what I had to say .
Women value listening. I for one,have always been particular to express that "yes, I realize you can hear me, but are you listening".
Its easy to hear.It is more challenging to listen. It requires focus and concerted effort to process the words and ideas that are coming out of someone's mind and mouth and to digest them as your own.
If I sit and listen to you speak about something.By listening, I am creating a personal image of what you have mentioned. I am activating my empathy.I am putting myself in your shoes or at the very least trying to look at the world from you current angle.
I get worked up when I hear people from the opposite gender speak about how women nag or that we are complicated.
Yes some women do, but there is purpose to all that is said. When you choose to simply HEAR, you will...of course just hear senseless words riled up by amplified and unnecessary emotion. Her expression is pointless and so uncalled for. When you as a man choose to listen..you will come to understand the..
WHAT about her..
The WHY about her..
The HOW about her.
You will know what may have prompted her agitation. You know why she is feeling what she is feeling and you will know how she feels about feeling how she feels.
Take a breath. Its seems convoluted I know, but truly simple and I'll give you an example of just how simple it is.
She had a hard day. (that's what's wrong)
Coffee fell on her laptop.She couldn't finish a report due for a particular time (that's the -why- something is wrong)
She feels so stressed and disappointed.(these are her feelings towards the situation)
Of course, women are not robots and its rare that her words may be so few and answer precisely what you ask but she's more than likely going to give you the three part series and you're only going to be able to discern if you listen.
Listening in an invaluable skill. Imagine being at the airport and not hearing the last call for your flight. Imagine not tuning in to listen about a catastrophic hurricane headed to your home town. Hearing is one thing but listening holds the true value.
Both men and woman who are are interested in marriage would treasure someone who knows how to listen. If you are going to spend a lifetime with someone and be happy, you're going to have to listen to their ever changing needs. Listening is what makes friendships work and gives people that feeling of belonging.
They spoke, they were listened to, they were understood and accepted.
Listen to your intuition.Listen to the voice of God directing your paths.
Listening quiets the mind and silences the static that threatens to steal your peace away.I began losing my inner voice when I started placing way too much emphasis on the voices outside me. It truly started to kill my dream for this blog. I placed more importance on whether people were taking an interest in what I had to say as oppose to listening to my spirit and what I have been felt moved to do. It was only because I felt confirmation within myself at first that I embarked. I knew that whether or not people made it known, that I had an impact.
I don't quite feel like I've have gone back to my usual flow but I'm honestly just happy that I got back on the horse and chose not to let Soulfully Stella die.
Right now,several things are speaking to me-all demanding that I listen. The battery on this laptop is saying- I'm going to die soon. My eye bags are saying that I might be a cross breed between a raccoon and a human and the time is saying that I need to hit the hay.
I guess instead of the AA meetings. We could have SS meeting (soulfully stella..eh???no?)
Either way I want to thank you guys for listening. I promise good reads are coming.
Like my dad says, take time to listen to what people are saying to you.It may just be their last message to you before they depart this life.
Soulfully Attentive to your reading needs:)
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