Love is always going to be a hot topic here on Soulfully Stella because Love is always going to be a priority in this world so please forgive me if you feel frustrated that I'm here talking about this again.
* Anyway & Onwards.*
Many people are singing this song. Standing on the mountain tops (figuratively of course) looking for their Romeos and Juliets. Problem is, not many people are coming across the deep romance that they were hoping for. They find someone yes, but that person is not always the right one.
Everything often seems great initially but after the hype comes some serious realizations. You can't help but scratch your head and realize that you no longer like your "Romeo/Juliet" because he or she is no longer the person you thought they were.
You see, that's the problem guys. Many of us have been CREATING Romeos and Juliets. We have these ideas about love which have become our core values as to whether we deem something fitting to our standard or not. The other problem here is that we vocalize our list. We know what we want and we just shout out our hopes ,dreams and relationship expectations to just about anyone who inquires about our relationship beliefs. The thing is,people have become Chameleons.Now we know that people are not lizards (more so snakes at times). We know they don't change colour (unless they're blushing) but they do become Chameleons and I'll tell you how.
Each person has their own agenda,positive or negative.I believe that we hold the backdrop for "iffy" and uncertain people. You see they are constantly changing and looking for something to adapt to. The two of you become similar in that case where you too are looking for something-in that case it is your Romeo. Its probable that this person was looking for something in general or in particular from you.Whatever the case, the fact that some of us talk a lot ,i.e (always announce the colour of the backdrop we're holding ) impedes us ascertaining who people are authentically- unaltered by our expectations.
Many women are guilty of putting their relationship expectations on blast. Some guy comes wanting data about you and you download all your business about what you want in a man. A few days and perhaps conversations later, this curious onlooker that you've been talking to starts checking off on just about everything you want on your list. The coincidence isn't just uncanny- it is no coincidence at all.
Hero complex is very real. Some women admit to being attracted to lost causes. Some even claim that the person that their personal prescence in the partner's life has caused him/her to be a better person and that's something that we all should be careful of. In my books, changing someone is always a bad thing. If you influence a positive change-that's a good thing but to be the captain,cook and bottle-washer is definitely a problem. The change must be wanted and if its wanted it will be done by the person, for their own good, with little or none of your meddling.
* Anyway & Onwards.*
Many people are singing this song. Standing on the mountain tops (figuratively of course) looking for their Romeos and Juliets. Problem is, not many people are coming across the deep romance that they were hoping for. They find someone yes, but that person is not always the right one.
Everything often seems great initially but after the hype comes some serious realizations. You can't help but scratch your head and realize that you no longer like your "Romeo/Juliet" because he or she is no longer the person you thought they were.
You see, that's the problem guys. Many of us have been CREATING Romeos and Juliets. We have these ideas about love which have become our core values as to whether we deem something fitting to our standard or not. The other problem here is that we vocalize our list. We know what we want and we just shout out our hopes ,dreams and relationship expectations to just about anyone who inquires about our relationship beliefs. The thing is,people have become Chameleons.Now we know that people are not lizards (more so snakes at times). We know they don't change colour (unless they're blushing) but they do become Chameleons and I'll tell you how.
Each person has their own agenda,positive or negative.I believe that we hold the backdrop for "iffy" and uncertain people. You see they are constantly changing and looking for something to adapt to. The two of you become similar in that case where you too are looking for something-in that case it is your Romeo. Its probable that this person was looking for something in general or in particular from you.Whatever the case, the fact that some of us talk a lot ,i.e (always announce the colour of the backdrop we're holding ) impedes us ascertaining who people are authentically- unaltered by our expectations.
Many women are guilty of putting their relationship expectations on blast. Some guy comes wanting data about you and you download all your business about what you want in a man. A few days and perhaps conversations later, this curious onlooker that you've been talking to starts checking off on just about everything you want on your list. The coincidence isn't just uncanny- it is no coincidence at all.
Hero complex is very real. Some women admit to being attracted to lost causes. Some even claim that the person that their personal prescence in the partner's life has caused him/her to be a better person and that's something that we all should be careful of. In my books, changing someone is always a bad thing. If you influence a positive change-that's a good thing but to be the captain,cook and bottle-washer is definitely a problem. The change must be wanted and if its wanted it will be done by the person, for their own good, with little or none of your meddling.
Sticks and stones may break your bones but words can...
never hurt you? WRONG.
Your own words can break your heart. When you speak your vision of your soul-mate to someone who had the hots for you-you are feeding them the formula to win you over. Many women already know this and do it anyway just to see how close a man can come and possibly if this is her one,true boo for real. However, its a bad practice! In doing so, you allow a man to deceive you. Its no wonder some men and women find that their partners act differently in their prescence as oppose to when they are around other people. This person already know how to act around you to keep you happy but most importantly, they know how to KEEP you.
I know it may be hard for some of us but shutting up (some more or altogether if you over power your love interest) is of paramount importance if you want to find love.
Ask a question. Allow him/her to respond. Chances are their brains are going to go through old files to say something most suiting to what they believe would appease you anyway. WHY? because they like you and its natural to want the person you like to like you back.
Do not influence or nudge your partner. Understand that he/she is not a horse. You do not pull the reigns or whip them into submission. If you want things in your life to be genuine,allow people to be genuine around you. If he or she is goofy. Let him be that way! Allow your partner to be themselves, all of themselves and nothing but themselves. See whether you like it enough to sign off on it and do so, if you don't-at least you've learnt enough about who this person truly is so you can make your assessment.
Speak is a very powerful thing. Its the second element of creation, the first is thought. You know what you want. So, the thought is love. Long,lasting,spontaneous romance-LOVE. If you speak with forceful energy you are manipulate what "is not" into "what you would like".
Remember, the red flags are always there. We always get those feelings. We always get the sense that something isn't quite right. We know! Therefore-just shut up and listen...if you want to find love. Don't force someone. Allow them. You cannot create compatibily,it just is or is not.
Shut up.
Listen
& Wait
Mean while ....
I'm currently listening to the music of crickets...nice song..I must say.
Always Soulful..till I meet my twin Soul.
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