There are so many factors that can drive us into relationships that do not feed us. Many of these factors are held in such high esteem that it only seems normal,that one should go based off these factors and invest themselves for the 1st or perhaps 2nd time around in love.
(these factors could range from social stature, need for financial stability, sexual desires,money or things)
Missing is also one of those factors."Missing" is something that I hold dear to my heart.Being young, and on the journey of discovering new things about myself has a way of making me feel like something is missing.I'm not speaking specifically about a romantic interest,but just a strange lack that makes me feel like there is more to be done in life. Feeling like these can either propel you to achieve greater things or leave you feeling very unfulfilled and demotivated.So ,as anything else, you can call it absence if you wish.
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Absence is a breeding ground for desperation. Space needs to be filled. Everything we know exists from creation.Creation is a good thing. Empty space is a bad thing-an underutilized resource waiting to be capitalized.The same works on an emotional level. Many people have been taught as only seems the norm,that our hearts are on a line waiting for untimely capture.For spontaneous love.For "the one". And even those Anti-romantics,understand that their hearts wait on that line too.That they might ,at some point,unfortunately be shot in the back by Cupid's freedom-stealing arrow.
Whether running to or away from love,love ranks highly on many priority lists. Some people have other matters ranking above it, only because they are under the impression that their love life will be better after they have completed the stuff they have placed above romance.Note here-that persons like these have decided to postpone love and deal with the highs and lows of absence/missing, till business is done,so that love can come around.
Many people have experienced fleeting romance.They are not very interested in sticking around or riding the emotional roller coaster with you.They just want the good times,as appears on TV and when the fights break out, they run back to their fortress of solitude,casting down fire on love and littering the town with posters of why single is the way to go. These people suffer from missing too.So, they try to fill up with love.Love shallow enough that if the ship were to start sinking, they could bail off easy enough that they wouldn't now have to deal with double consequences- I.e,the first absence that led them to you..and the one you almost left them with.
Then, there are those who truly thought they understood Love.They did the good times and bad.The laughter and crying.Essentially,the highs and lows and still ended up standing alone, in the rain,listening to Enrique Iglesias' somebody's me.
This sort of absence can cause a massive hole for desperation to live in. It can cause this maddening longing.It can play games with your mind so much so that you would rather run back to the arms of your past than faces the beasts of the unknown.
Whether you fall into category 1,2 or 3 (or perhaps,I haven't addressed your concern at all -for which I apologize), Love is not the remedy for missing. Not love from the outside anyway.
Often times people look at two people who look great together or were so good together and think that because its clear that they both (or perhaps one ) miss each other that they should try the "relationship thing" but missing someone doesn't warrant a relationship.
Missing someone is just your body's way of going into withdrawal.Your body and emotions are reacting to something which they deem to be traumatic but as everything else,it is just for a season. However long the season-time will tell,but it is never reason enough for love.
People miss people all the time.People miss people badly and ache terribly just because of it,but there ought to be more than "missing" for you to consider going back to someone who has broken your heart.
There is a war raging between people who believe its okay to go back to someone you miss and then there is the opposition which says suck it up. I personally believe that if you dwell on how much you miss this person without consulting the gravity of situations which led you to split up at first, you're most likely setting yourself up for another breakup.
It is so very possible that two people who belong together are currently separate. They split up over something as simple as one liking red kool-aid and the other liking blue-Petty really. On the other hand, some people separated on the basis of profound differences perhaps, religious, political, socio-economic struggles, social stratification( you get where I'm going with this right?) Therefore, missing really is but of dried speck of dirt on a big fat muddy pig. Its truly insignificant in the face of everything else there is to consider.
Many people who have been subject to abuse at some point identify with their abuser. It is possible to be so cracked that you begin to love what hurts you. And we're not speaking in the Christian brotherly love way, where you are told to love those who persecute you-no. We are talking about wanting and yearning for things that do not better you.
Missing is a sign consolidation. You have forsaken your wholeness and began to mold with someone else. Where you had two legs, you gave up one, to have your partner's leg, that you two may walk together in love. Without them of course, you can't help but feel like you're not going anywhere.
Its okay to miss people. Really, it is but what do you miss? and most importantly what don't you miss?
Its perfectly natural to miss your ex significant other despite how your loving friends will try to console you by ensuring you habour no feelings positive or negative towards this person.
Don't dissuade yourself from feeling. Every feeling has its purpose, its just left up to you to propel yourself positively as a result of feeling that particular way.
Missing is natural.What is unfair to you is to allow the feeling to consume you,for, being consumed by a feeling like "missing" is to surrender yourself to total emptiness, where God created you in fullness and completion with his spirit.
Unrequitted love has a way of making you feel like you're bleeding...gasoline. Yeh. It makes you feel like you're bleeding gasoline on the bad days and the worst part is that often times the person you miss is the one throwing the match on you,setting you ablaze.Its a horribly painful experience...but many a crack head, many an alcoholic has lived to tell their addiction stories in past tense.
Some even wear suits and ties now.
Life goes on babies.
Here's a tissue.
Let's get going...
Soulfully,
here for you.
(these factors could range from social stature, need for financial stability, sexual desires,money or things)
Missing is also one of those factors."Missing" is something that I hold dear to my heart.Being young, and on the journey of discovering new things about myself has a way of making me feel like something is missing.I'm not speaking specifically about a romantic interest,but just a strange lack that makes me feel like there is more to be done in life. Feeling like these can either propel you to achieve greater things or leave you feeling very unfulfilled and demotivated.So ,as anything else, you can call it absence if you wish.
~
Absence is a breeding ground for desperation. Space needs to be filled. Everything we know exists from creation.Creation is a good thing. Empty space is a bad thing-an underutilized resource waiting to be capitalized.The same works on an emotional level. Many people have been taught as only seems the norm,that our hearts are on a line waiting for untimely capture.For spontaneous love.For "the one". And even those Anti-romantics,understand that their hearts wait on that line too.That they might ,at some point,unfortunately be shot in the back by Cupid's freedom-stealing arrow.
Whether running to or away from love,love ranks highly on many priority lists. Some people have other matters ranking above it, only because they are under the impression that their love life will be better after they have completed the stuff they have placed above romance.Note here-that persons like these have decided to postpone love and deal with the highs and lows of absence/missing, till business is done,so that love can come around.
Many people have experienced fleeting romance.They are not very interested in sticking around or riding the emotional roller coaster with you.They just want the good times,as appears on TV and when the fights break out, they run back to their fortress of solitude,casting down fire on love and littering the town with posters of why single is the way to go. These people suffer from missing too.So, they try to fill up with love.Love shallow enough that if the ship were to start sinking, they could bail off easy enough that they wouldn't now have to deal with double consequences- I.e,the first absence that led them to you..and the one you almost left them with.
Then, there are those who truly thought they understood Love.They did the good times and bad.The laughter and crying.Essentially,the highs and lows and still ended up standing alone, in the rain,listening to Enrique Iglesias' somebody's me.
This sort of absence can cause a massive hole for desperation to live in. It can cause this maddening longing.It can play games with your mind so much so that you would rather run back to the arms of your past than faces the beasts of the unknown.
Whether you fall into category 1,2 or 3 (or perhaps,I haven't addressed your concern at all -for which I apologize), Love is not the remedy for missing. Not love from the outside anyway.
Often times people look at two people who look great together or were so good together and think that because its clear that they both (or perhaps one ) miss each other that they should try the "relationship thing" but missing someone doesn't warrant a relationship.
Missing someone is just your body's way of going into withdrawal.Your body and emotions are reacting to something which they deem to be traumatic but as everything else,it is just for a season. However long the season-time will tell,but it is never reason enough for love.
People miss people all the time.People miss people badly and ache terribly just because of it,but there ought to be more than "missing" for you to consider going back to someone who has broken your heart.
There is a war raging between people who believe its okay to go back to someone you miss and then there is the opposition which says suck it up. I personally believe that if you dwell on how much you miss this person without consulting the gravity of situations which led you to split up at first, you're most likely setting yourself up for another breakup.
It is so very possible that two people who belong together are currently separate. They split up over something as simple as one liking red kool-aid and the other liking blue-Petty really. On the other hand, some people separated on the basis of profound differences perhaps, religious, political, socio-economic struggles, social stratification( you get where I'm going with this right?) Therefore, missing really is but of dried speck of dirt on a big fat muddy pig. Its truly insignificant in the face of everything else there is to consider.
Many people who have been subject to abuse at some point identify with their abuser. It is possible to be so cracked that you begin to love what hurts you. And we're not speaking in the Christian brotherly love way, where you are told to love those who persecute you-no. We are talking about wanting and yearning for things that do not better you.
Missing is a sign consolidation. You have forsaken your wholeness and began to mold with someone else. Where you had two legs, you gave up one, to have your partner's leg, that you two may walk together in love. Without them of course, you can't help but feel like you're not going anywhere.
Its okay to miss people. Really, it is but what do you miss? and most importantly what don't you miss?
Its perfectly natural to miss your ex significant other despite how your loving friends will try to console you by ensuring you habour no feelings positive or negative towards this person.
Don't dissuade yourself from feeling. Every feeling has its purpose, its just left up to you to propel yourself positively as a result of feeling that particular way.
Missing is natural.What is unfair to you is to allow the feeling to consume you,for, being consumed by a feeling like "missing" is to surrender yourself to total emptiness, where God created you in fullness and completion with his spirit.
Unrequitted love has a way of making you feel like you're bleeding...gasoline. Yeh. It makes you feel like you're bleeding gasoline on the bad days and the worst part is that often times the person you miss is the one throwing the match on you,setting you ablaze.Its a horribly painful experience...but many a crack head, many an alcoholic has lived to tell their addiction stories in past tense.
Some even wear suits and ties now.
Life goes on babies.
Here's a tissue.
Let's get going...
Soulfully,
here for you.
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