I don't think we realize just how much we long for companionship and human interaction till we experience neglect. Its a dreadful thing,feeling like you and your feelings don't matter to someone who still matters to you.Its downright embarrassing.
Neglect is defined as the failure to take care of properly and well in that case I think many people are experiencing neglect,so much so that some don't even realize it.It could be your home environment neglecting you,failing to provide your needs.It could be your work or school environment which does not provide an avenue for growth an development. Whatever the lack,it will breed discontentment.
Before we get to an independent stage in our lives,we will spend many years,particularly our formative ones,searching outside ourselves for affirmation. Born into a world where we are who we were told to be.
Before we are capable of controlling what gets to us,it has already gotten through us and affected our perception of ourselves and our reactions to circumstances in life.Feelings of inadequacy breed so easily that most times its difficult to tell that your self-esteem is taking a massive hit. Like a virus,almost. Some persons have never truly known what it is to have high self esteem. Some have never known what is is to have a dream or vision for themselves-no distinct purpose. Nothing.
Even when you do have high or perhaps just an average level of self esteem, neglect still has a way of eroding it. You may not go from high self esteem to none at all but if you're surrounded by persons who constantly breathe inadequacy on you, you're going to experience self doubt at one point or another.I know, I've been victim to it.
We must be careful who we hold in high esteem in our lives because these are the people who we give "passes" in our minds. When they do and say things to us, it doesn't come under as much scrutiny as other persons because we have deemed these people safe.Therefore they can say anything to us because we do not believe that they would say things with malicious intent-(they wouldn't or shouldn't or have not hurt us before.) People sometimes find themselves on the pedestals in our lives without us even realizing how they got there.
Family, friends,romantic interests are just three of the possible relationships that can deliver a powerful blow to one's self esteem. Family, no matter the extent of the damage will always be family however since you spend the most time with family, any neglect experienced in that close circle can have some of the most disturbing effects.
Friends as well.We belong to our families. We do not belong to our friends.Friends can become strangers over a horrible disagreement and some years apart but friends are still the ones we go to share our joys and pains and laughs along life's way. When your friends neglect you, your world suddenly has a way of feeling small,cramped and low on air.Its like walking a tightrope and feeling the full effects of your nerves because your security blanket is below to catch you.
Then there's neglect from a love interest,boyfriend, girlfriend,husband or wife. These are the real heart breakers. I suppose its because of how emotionally invested we get but being neglected by people you love is serious "salt in the wound".
I can't quite say that I've found the ultimate solution out of this disaster but speaking to the right people can help. Level headed adults can offer a surprising amount of guidance because they have "been there and done that". Getting busy and expanding your skill set is a purposeful action and counteracts the feelings that being neglected might impose on you.
Bare this in mind...
"Neglect is a real thing. Neglect is also a hard thing.It tries to steal your right to walk with your head held high.Neglect is a painful thing.Half of the pain is due to the people who neglect you and the other half of the pain is self inflicted.Self Inflicted? yes! because if you also choose to affirm all the negative that it being thrown your way and you abandon yourself in your time of need you are no better to yourself than those who hurt you by failing to care enough"
May Peace and Self Awareness be with you.
"...for no one can make me feel inferior without my consent."
Soulfully & Positively Affirmed.
Neglect is defined as the failure to take care of properly and well in that case I think many people are experiencing neglect,so much so that some don't even realize it.It could be your home environment neglecting you,failing to provide your needs.It could be your work or school environment which does not provide an avenue for growth an development. Whatever the lack,it will breed discontentment.
Before we get to an independent stage in our lives,we will spend many years,particularly our formative ones,searching outside ourselves for affirmation. Born into a world where we are who we were told to be.
Before we are capable of controlling what gets to us,it has already gotten through us and affected our perception of ourselves and our reactions to circumstances in life.Feelings of inadequacy breed so easily that most times its difficult to tell that your self-esteem is taking a massive hit. Like a virus,almost. Some persons have never truly known what it is to have high self esteem. Some have never known what is is to have a dream or vision for themselves-no distinct purpose. Nothing.
Even when you do have high or perhaps just an average level of self esteem, neglect still has a way of eroding it. You may not go from high self esteem to none at all but if you're surrounded by persons who constantly breathe inadequacy on you, you're going to experience self doubt at one point or another.I know, I've been victim to it.
We must be careful who we hold in high esteem in our lives because these are the people who we give "passes" in our minds. When they do and say things to us, it doesn't come under as much scrutiny as other persons because we have deemed these people safe.Therefore they can say anything to us because we do not believe that they would say things with malicious intent-(they wouldn't or shouldn't or have not hurt us before.) People sometimes find themselves on the pedestals in our lives without us even realizing how they got there.
Family, friends,romantic interests are just three of the possible relationships that can deliver a powerful blow to one's self esteem. Family, no matter the extent of the damage will always be family however since you spend the most time with family, any neglect experienced in that close circle can have some of the most disturbing effects.
Friends as well.We belong to our families. We do not belong to our friends.Friends can become strangers over a horrible disagreement and some years apart but friends are still the ones we go to share our joys and pains and laughs along life's way. When your friends neglect you, your world suddenly has a way of feeling small,cramped and low on air.Its like walking a tightrope and feeling the full effects of your nerves because your security blanket is below to catch you.
Then there's neglect from a love interest,boyfriend, girlfriend,husband or wife. These are the real heart breakers. I suppose its because of how emotionally invested we get but being neglected by people you love is serious "salt in the wound".
I can't quite say that I've found the ultimate solution out of this disaster but speaking to the right people can help. Level headed adults can offer a surprising amount of guidance because they have "been there and done that". Getting busy and expanding your skill set is a purposeful action and counteracts the feelings that being neglected might impose on you.
Bare this in mind...
"Neglect is a real thing. Neglect is also a hard thing.It tries to steal your right to walk with your head held high.Neglect is a painful thing.Half of the pain is due to the people who neglect you and the other half of the pain is self inflicted.Self Inflicted? yes! because if you also choose to affirm all the negative that it being thrown your way and you abandon yourself in your time of need you are no better to yourself than those who hurt you by failing to care enough"
May Peace and Self Awareness be with you.
"...for no one can make me feel inferior without my consent."
Soulfully & Positively Affirmed.
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