Hey! Good day...Good night.
I hope you guys are fine and positive.If you are,let me commend you as it really can be a challenging thing to do.Keeping positive is not always easy.Until you have become resilient, minor matters can still get under your armor and irritate you. I hope you guys do not mistake what I am about to say for ego-it is not. I am just the sort of individual who is mindful of who I accept criticism from. This whole idea of constructive criticism is being manipulated.I'm not saying that its not possible for someone to genuinely pull you up by your boot straps but there are times where you need to observe-
1.What is being said.
2.Who it is coming from.
3.What they have to gain from this &
4.Their associations.
People are different.Therefore,not every one is out to get you.Some people do have some positive "to-do's" on their agenda and you may simply be one of them. Perhaps,they see something in you,waiting to bloom but something about you is your own impediment and they just want to help you out.
You must be mindful though of people who disguise themselves in "nice-ness" and try to feed you pain. I believe it would be unfair to myself to go around accepting everything people said to me about myself,mostly because I feel like I know myself a lot better than people who may have an endless list of criticism about me.
I believe that the people who are entitled to seriously correct me are persons who have journeyed with me in life. They know me-how I rationalized,the things that make me happy/sad and have been contributors to my happiness before.They are genuine and don't give reason for me to question whether they care about me or not.That is only part of my criteria though. Experts too.I trust veterans of my current experience (essentially,they have been there and done that). I don't encourage people going out into the world and attempting to gather everything negative to know its wrong however, I do respect the experiences of people who have made mistakes and had no one to advise them of better.These people know pain and after healing,they sometimes can be so genuine and sensitive to the plight of others that they cannot envision someone else going through what they went through.
All I'm saying guys,is be mindful of who you share your crosses in life with. Be careful who you let wipe your tears.There are always too sides to any story and it is easy to find yourself hurt by people you are close to. It doesn't mean because someone is "your friend" that they won't do unfriendly things to you. Friends are people too and as I mature,I forgive and have come to understand that people ,(myself included of course) make mistakes but you need to be careful who you accept a helping hand from.Sometimes the hand that seems to be coming to wipe your tears is just moving your hair out of the way to give you a solid slap in the face.
Do not be discourage when people who think they know you,criticize you.If you are free in your spirit,then that is all that matters.
What people think of you is none of your business (I tell myself that all the time). I don't know about you guys,but I surely have enough to think about.
* I would like to extend photo credits to Karen Salmansohn, from notsalmon.com*
I hope you guys are fine and positive.If you are,let me commend you as it really can be a challenging thing to do.Keeping positive is not always easy.Until you have become resilient, minor matters can still get under your armor and irritate you. I hope you guys do not mistake what I am about to say for ego-it is not. I am just the sort of individual who is mindful of who I accept criticism from. This whole idea of constructive criticism is being manipulated.I'm not saying that its not possible for someone to genuinely pull you up by your boot straps but there are times where you need to observe-1.What is being said.
2.Who it is coming from.
3.What they have to gain from this &
4.Their associations.
People are different.Therefore,not every one is out to get you.Some people do have some positive "to-do's" on their agenda and you may simply be one of them. Perhaps,they see something in you,waiting to bloom but something about you is your own impediment and they just want to help you out.
You must be mindful though of people who disguise themselves in "nice-ness" and try to feed you pain. I believe it would be unfair to myself to go around accepting everything people said to me about myself,mostly because I feel like I know myself a lot better than people who may have an endless list of criticism about me.
I believe that the people who are entitled to seriously correct me are persons who have journeyed with me in life. They know me-how I rationalized,the things that make me happy/sad and have been contributors to my happiness before.They are genuine and don't give reason for me to question whether they care about me or not.That is only part of my criteria though. Experts too.I trust veterans of my current experience (essentially,they have been there and done that). I don't encourage people going out into the world and attempting to gather everything negative to know its wrong however, I do respect the experiences of people who have made mistakes and had no one to advise them of better.These people know pain and after healing,they sometimes can be so genuine and sensitive to the plight of others that they cannot envision someone else going through what they went through.
All I'm saying guys,is be mindful of who you share your crosses in life with. Be careful who you let wipe your tears.There are always too sides to any story and it is easy to find yourself hurt by people you are close to. It doesn't mean because someone is "your friend" that they won't do unfriendly things to you. Friends are people too and as I mature,I forgive and have come to understand that people ,(myself included of course) make mistakes but you need to be careful who you accept a helping hand from.Sometimes the hand that seems to be coming to wipe your tears is just moving your hair out of the way to give you a solid slap in the face.
Do not be discourage when people who think they know you,criticize you.If you are free in your spirit,then that is all that matters.
What people think of you is none of your business (I tell myself that all the time). I don't know about you guys,but I surely have enough to think about.
* I would like to extend photo credits to Karen Salmansohn, from notsalmon.com*
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