Why the "FRIENDZONE" is the best Zone.

Lately, the friend zone has been made out to be a very scary place. Its the final destination for those hoping to be more than friends with that special someone. Its a death sentence. You will be subject to hear about their interests in other people.They will come to YOU,when things are going south with the person who isn't giving them the time of day,because,really,who better than you to relate to something like that.

The friend zone has been painted as the place of tumble weeds.Of going to functions together and being introduced as "oh,and this my friend" or worse.."das JUST my friend",then you have to endure all the pree-ing glances that figure you like this person and he/she just doesn't see you that way. Guys seemed to be friend zoned more than girls do by the way.So, as we go on,I'm going to speak from the guy's point of view. *Excuse me while I put my balls on*

It must be really frustrating and indeed it is,to watch a woman complain about doggish men when you're sitting here,prime rib,waiting for some acknowledgement. Many guys dread the friend zone. They see it as inescapable and it really and truly is not as bad as it has been painted to be. Granted it is possible that you have been sentenced to the friend zone for some particular innate qualities that you may possess .Qualities that would irritate your friend if they had to share a romantic relationship with you.

Friends are one thing.Lovers are another. There are sides that you think you would be able to adequately handle if you were in a relationship with your friend but you probably wouldn't. There are greater expectations of boyfriends but most importantly it boils down to one thing.

What is that one thing?...well, I'll tell you.....
....now...

That one thing separating you,the darling friend and him,the loser boyfriend is attraction. She is attracted to him and is not attracted to you. Now,you may be thinking ,but I look just or almost as good as he does. Allow me to slay your ignorance.Her attraction to him may have nothing to do with his looks and in some instances,thats all it has to do with. It is important to note than some women friendzone men,not because they do not want them,but because they do not want them now.As has been done by many guys in history,who have run around and tried to stick close to and "save" the best girl for last. Whilst you may be viewing your friendzone status as a permanent thing,it is very probable that your crush has realized that their relationship is a temporary thing. He/She says things and does things that they are not prepared to endure for the rest of their life so they know that a break up is inevitable.

Soulfuls, the friend zone is the best zone because this is where you learn your crush. This is where you get to test the waters of acceptance before commitment and that is a gift because many people these days get into a relationship first and then choose to learn the 411 on their partner. 

This is your chance to tell your jokes and be yourself.This is your chance to be vulnerable and be consoled.This is your chance to truly make a friend and if love chooses to abide thereafter ,GREAT! This is your chance to fart and not be crucified because ...guys,just think. First date, maybe a lil dinner or whatever-sweaty palms, concerted efforts being made to keep conversation flowing and you just rip one..*BREPP*...haha. The chances of her calling you after "you drop a big fart" is slim to none. Every time she thinks of you,she remembers the guy who farts loud in public but if you two are friends,she would probably react like this..

*Pffftttt* Masiay (inserts name here),Nyackk!!!!!! (yuck)...you really nasty...oh my gosh, *laughs* that really smelling. Bordose...*runs away* or something like that.

Now tell me guys,isn't that much better? Being in the friend zone allows you an opportunity to truly be yourself. Many people in relationships have friends that they would confide things in that they would never tell their partner. I'm not saying its right,but it is a fact.Too many people are desperate to get out of the friendzone without learning the basics about the person they claim to be interested in and that's one of the ways to tell a person's agenda. 

How can you really sit and want to be someone's boo and not know their favourite colour or food.Their style of dress,their allergies,their preferences.Lots of people think they are in love when they are just chronic panty/boxer hoppers so the idea of being friends offends them greatly.

The friend zone is the best zone.It is the foundation for a great relationship.With that being said, I trust that you understand that someone who is not interested in building a good foundation with you no matter how long it may take,is not interested in building a stable and durable structure with you either.That structure is a relationship,therefore,why should/would you invest your time and heart into something that  was created to crumble.

Take your time.
Enjoy that he/she confides in you.
Enjoy that you two can just be friends.
There,you can grow spiritually and all the other "allys",like mentally with your friend as these are vital for a strong relationship.

It is possible to live in the friend zone.It is also possible to laugh in the friend zone..and it is most certainly possible that two people can fall in love in the friend zone:)

-Soulfully Stella