Men & Gros Pwel

This may surprise many ladies due to how guys tend to behave but "the pwel" is very real and more so to men who were very much in love.I know,I know, it seems almost impossible that any living, breathing ,penis-wielding guy may have ever truly known the pain and lakes of tears that we women have  shed but whether or not you're still unable to get over the shock of this revelation-men experience the notorious gros pwel too.

I don't believe many women have had the pleasure of tuning in to such a magical conversation. Getting behind those steel emotional walls and hearing men talk about how a woman REALLY made them feel. I will admit,when I was very young,I didn't understand who men were,not that I' m claiming to being a guru now,but back then I didn't know if men were ladies with different "parts" or something different altogether.In my mind,at face value,men were cold and void of emotion,crazed over ladies,sex and big butts.They ate,they slept and unapologetic ally urinated where ever their royal bladders decided to plead mercy.

Time of course and many brutally honest male friends have slain my ignorance. 

                            

Men experience gros pwel for the very reasons women do,because Men fall in love too.Some men had no idea they were in so deep but the reality is that most Gros pwels men experience are due to being the recipient of a catastrophic and completely unanticipated horn.This causes one type of pwel-The type which is initially devastating.The toll is visible as compared to the other pwel which is caused by a mutual agreement to separate,where the guy is still in love and will forever and ever always be in love with a girl he separated from without reason.

Over rounds of beers, men have attested to how their worlds fell apart.The disbelief when they walked in on their partner or when they found out about the infidelity going on,all  unbeknownst to them was enough to drive them crazy. Men like to come across as strong but they do feel a lot in relationships,whether they admit to it or not. One guy expressed that all he had left in him was just enough to tell the other guy get out of his house.When all was said and done, he went to lay in his bed,possibly in a fetal position and sobbed.

We live in a world where we ask our boys to be men at an age when they should just be allow to be free.We have feminized all things soft ,sweet and emotional. The way some guys look in town, you would think smiling might make them less a man and more,a lady. Young men walking about the place,kinky dreads, lacoste pouches,and a million and one gold studs-reversed,so they got spiky ears. Guys are trying to look dangerous. Ashamed of being vulnerable. Fighting  and beating random people to appear tough. 

Men are trying harder and harder to look strong,but that only speaks greater volumes about the weakness that lies deep within them. Worse even, when such conflicted men find love.Having your heart shattered by your confidant drives many guys into a reclusive existence-though many are too embarrassed to admit it.

I have older male friends who have really showed me a rope or two on this topic guys.One confessed to a group that he didn't shower for about 3 days. Bathing became a conflict of interest-it was either,he sat and literally marinated in his own juices or go insane.Most guys rebound with other girls but most tend to vanish into their "bro" fraternities.They are now going out with their "padnas" and chilling, and going to this place and that place with their bros so often you would think it was going out of style.Don't be fooled, men love their bros, but that's the pwel speaking. They need to fill all the slots of their life that you occupied with senseless beer drinking, female-butt watching or smiling sitting together and watching each other in eyes.(like we say here). Its never y intent to come across as vile,just honest,(just keeping my conservative readers in mind). Some guys confess to dealing with their heart ache with tears and chronic masturbation.

Some men don't deal with relationship separation very well. Check out the LMN 's A Trusted Man(lifetime movie network) for a classic yet creepy example of how breakups can seriously jacked a guy's good screws.

All this to say,Men have feelings too.For all of you doubting Debbie's out there.Its reported that they do feel as much as we do,we ladies generally just talk more about our feelings.

Its been said women can take "horn" meaning women can easily deal with being cheated on but not so for men.Their egos are large but shatter easily. With that in mind ladies, the sea is filled with enough guys justifying their douche bag ways by saying a woman broke their hearts without us making the problem any worse.

Though I kept it light,its really important to treat someone's heart as you would want yours to be treated.You never know who is truly a few nerves away from their last. Life is fun and an adventure of its own.Too many toys exists in this world,to play games with hearts.

Ladies,spare the men..

and men,spare the ladies.

Unapologetically

 Anti-Pwel

(against gros pwel)