This is by far one of the hardest things to do.Letting go of people and habits that no longer serve you is a very difficult task,even though its the best thing to do.Just like any investment,its going to be heart wrenching to know that things did not pay off and that your dreams of what could have been,did not materialize.
Choosing whether to let go or hold on is like shifting gears.Challenging yourself to see with your mind and not your heart. It is easy to love things and form attachments to people who will not sustain your spirit,much less build you and craft you into a better person.
I think it is easy and ever so often we meet people who initially seem full of promise.They seem to be journeying down the road that we're going. We find a buddy and gosh!,we're happy to not be alone.To have someone who understands.To have a lover.To have a friend.Whoever this companion may be.
Holding on always feels like the safest and most comfortable thing to do,even though its ultimately to our own detriment. It is a hard thing to do;separating from long term friends,when you realize that your journey together has ended.It was sad ,bearing witness to the daily increasing distance that was happening in my friendships a couple years ago. I have now come to understand that that is how life is and though I miss my older friends sometimes, I feel like we're oddly better suited to the persons we attracted once our friendship unofficially ended.
Love is a different kettle of fish though.Sometimes you have no choice but to let go,because you've already been let go and it can be unhealthy to remain committed to anyone who has made it clear that they are no longer in a relationship with you (well,unless you're married.) My own personal experiences left me relying a lot on time to do the rest of the work-I realized that I was powerless. I hoped that time would heal all wounds and well,soulfuls, to be honest,I'm not sure that time has done much work.I do feel better.I guess if I must bear in mind the mental anguish I would suffer,I can safely say.."alot better" but I thought that time would have erased my memory or something to that effect.
I had a conversation with a man a few days ago who was in a very troublesome yet escape-able situation and he said..*to the effect* stella,when you make a commitment,you must honour it,for sake of the initial commitment and trust exhibited by the other person in you..that even when things get rough,they can never say that you didn't try..I made a commitment"...and with words as forceful as these,I'm sure one can see why many people continue to hold onto a sinking ship.
At this particular point in my life,I think that is the lesson set out for me to learn.I watched a show with my family a while ago about hoarders and I realize how holding onto old and unimportant things can really steal your life away...and I want to live.
All we do in this life is in the pursuit of happiness.So choose life,choose smiling..and not just the things that will make you smile now and cry later but will keep you smiling.If the joy is fleeting,imaginary or needs for you to exaggerate it just to feel content-then you are better off letting go...your bleeding hands will heal...
“You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.”
― C. JoyBell C.
-To be Soulfully continued...
Choosing whether to let go or hold on is like shifting gears.Challenging yourself to see with your mind and not your heart. It is easy to love things and form attachments to people who will not sustain your spirit,much less build you and craft you into a better person.
I think it is easy and ever so often we meet people who initially seem full of promise.They seem to be journeying down the road that we're going. We find a buddy and gosh!,we're happy to not be alone.To have someone who understands.To have a lover.To have a friend.Whoever this companion may be.
People need people.
Love is a different kettle of fish though.Sometimes you have no choice but to let go,because you've already been let go and it can be unhealthy to remain committed to anyone who has made it clear that they are no longer in a relationship with you (well,unless you're married.) My own personal experiences left me relying a lot on time to do the rest of the work-I realized that I was powerless. I hoped that time would heal all wounds and well,soulfuls, to be honest,I'm not sure that time has done much work.I do feel better.I guess if I must bear in mind the mental anguish I would suffer,I can safely say.."alot better" but I thought that time would have erased my memory or something to that effect.
I had a conversation with a man a few days ago who was in a very troublesome yet escape-able situation and he said..*to the effect* stella,when you make a commitment,you must honour it,for sake of the initial commitment and trust exhibited by the other person in you..that even when things get rough,they can never say that you didn't try..I made a commitment"...and with words as forceful as these,I'm sure one can see why many people continue to hold onto a sinking ship.
At this particular point in my life,I think that is the lesson set out for me to learn.I watched a show with my family a while ago about hoarders and I realize how holding onto old and unimportant things can really steal your life away...and I want to live.
All we do in this life is in the pursuit of happiness.So choose life,choose smiling..and not just the things that will make you smile now and cry later but will keep you smiling.If the joy is fleeting,imaginary or needs for you to exaggerate it just to feel content-then you are better off letting go...your bleeding hands will heal...
“You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.”
― C. JoyBell C.
-To be Soulfully continued...
Good morning, how are you?
ReplyDeleteMy name is Emilio, I am a Spanish boy and I live in a town near to Madrid. I am a very interested person in knowing things so different as the culture, the way of life of the inhabitants of our planet, the fauna, the flora, and the landscapes of all the countries of the world etc. in summary, I am a person that enjoys travelling, learning and respecting people's diversity from all over the world.
I would love to travel and meet in person all the aspects above mentioned, but unfortunately as this is very expensive and my purchasing power is quite small, so I devised a way to travel with the imagination in every corner of our planet. A few years ago I started a collection of used stamps because trough them, you can see pictures about fauna, flora, monuments, landscapes etc. from all the countries. As every day is more and more difficult to get stamps, some years ago I started a new collection in order to get traditional letters addressed to me in which my goal was to get at least 1 letter from each country in the world. This modest goal is feasible to reach in the most part of countries, but unfortunately, it is impossible to achieve in other various territories for several reasons, either because they are very small countries with very few population, either because they are countries at war, either because they are countries with extreme poverty or because for whatever reason the postal system is not functioning properly.
For all this, I would ask you one small favour:
Would you be so kind as to send me a letter by traditional mail from St Lucia? I understand perfectly that you think that your blog is not the appropriate place to ask this, and even, is very probably that you ignore my letter, but I would call your attention to the difficulty involved in getting a letter from that country, and also I don’t know anyone neither where to write in St Lucia in order to increase my collection. a letter for me is like a little souvenir, like if I have had visited that territory with my imagination and at same time, the arrival of the letters from a country is a sign of peace and normality and an original way to promote a country in the world. My postal address is the following one:
Emilio Fernandez Esteban
Avenida Juan de la Cierva, 44
28902 Getafe (Madrid)
Spain
If you wish, you can visit my blog www.cartasenmibuzon.blogspot.com where you can see the pictures of all the letters that I have received from whole World.
Finally, I would like to thank the attention given to this letter, and whether you can help me or not, I send my best wishes for peace, health and happiness for you, your family and all your dear beings.
Yours Sincerely
Emilio Fernandez