Starting Over

I think each and every human being craves at least an ounce of a moment where they could just do things differently with their new found knowledge. Many people say they have no regrets in life.I cannot say that they are lying but I don't believe that's altogether true.

I believe we all have regrets.We just realize how senseless they are due to how powerless we are to evoke change ,so we "let it go".

The opportunity to start over presents itself so often in life that many of us don't realize it.Many of us search feverishly for simplicity however are blinded once it comes along. We all make mistakes in life.That's how we learn.Some people never truly allow us to leave our mistakes behind as the mere lessons that they were.Perhaps you might be that judgmental and impeding rock in someone's path today.Maybe  you just won't let all the sour facts you know about someone else's past die.All of us embrace the opportunity to start over.

Many persons leap at any chance to remake themselves; to cut or colour(dye) their hair,change their wardrobes and all other aspects of their life which merely give the impression that they are effecting change but they never change the more important things,like their influences and the  fruitless habits which have trapped them in circumstantial living. Starting over truly begins in your mind. Time waits for no man and many men AND WOMEN have been left behind. You may be productive in one aspect of your life but may be stuck in another area of your life,reliving events that happened years ago.

Starting over is not free.If it were,we would all be doing it. After all people love free stuff. Starting over comes at the price of forgiveness.When we forgive the offenses committed against us,we liberate ourselves to move on in life,unaffected and unashamed of our lessons and how we learnt them. If you cannot forgive,it makes it near impossible to start over. If you simply cannot let the past (which has already gone), GO, then you go nowhere. 

Humility has a major part to play in starting over and it is one of the hardest things to learn in life.It may appear that many persons have  poor self image or simply do not think highly enough about themselves, but I believe that many do,its just very,very distorted.Maybe the reason so many of these image issues exist,is because we think too highly of what a decent human existence should comprise of.We think too highly of ourselves,in the sense that we can never be wrong. I'm sure at this point you're wondering what the blazes does human existence have to do with starting over,"how Stella manage to stray so".Guys,if I wasn't clear before,I hope its clearer this time.Our sense of entitlement and boulder size egos prevent us from forgiving people.Sometimes we even forego being extended forgiveness,though we committed an ill against someone. It is easy to feel like you don't need someone to forgive because you don't feel like you did anything wrong but that it just a way of keeping an unpleasant situation up in the air.

Embrace the opportunity to start over when it presents itself.
Don't grudge.
Once something has gone wrong-you immediately have the opportunity to make things right.The year's end is only a few days away and tradition has deemed this the period when everyone does their new year's life cleaning-out with the old,in with the new.It will be great if you have resolutions for years 2014 ( I can't believe I'm saying that) but the only way you will be able to keep them is if you make starting over a habit.

When things have hit a bump in the road,be it in love or life,use the opportunity to start over.Don't fool yourself into thinking you can only do it at the end of the year or on your birthday or whatever breakdown you deemed to be a significant segmentation for your year.

Every day you wake is another day you have life.It is another opportunity to start over .Keep that in mind and remember to do just that.
I hope you enjoy the spontaneity that a new start brings once the sky goes sunny side up tomorrow.

Toodles!