“There are so many battles worth fighting for. The ones not worth fighting are the insecure battles that rage in another person’s mind.” ― Shannon L. Alder
Every day we open our eyes, we are awaken to fight another battle.Some people wake up feeling over joyed each morning but that does not mean they are not fighting their own battles-It means that they are winning.Some people also seem like they never have serious issues to confront and that truly may not be the case. It is more than likely that these people are masters of decision. These persons know how to pick their battles.
Life presents you with an abundance of everything. It is a matter of what you choose to accept and in turn what you choose to reject. You might be feeling a great sense of lack in one aspect or more in your life right now-but it is truly not as bad as you may think. How do I know so?..well for the simple fact that you may be reading this from a computer or an android phone. A great privilege not afforded to the starving millions on the east side of the globe.
Perhaps you feel stressed and you are experiencing a certain level of frustration where you wish you simply did not have to deal with what you're feeling very forced to deal with right now. When you are placed in a position to pick ,it because of external imposition. Where battles are concerned-it is a case where persons are forcing issues upon you that you would honestly rather not deal with.Guys, let me make this more relate-able.
Before settling into the great calm of my new found self- I was quite a pepper, and unfortunate force to reckon with once war was concerned. Once the line was crossed-I was out for blood. I didn't know how to let things slide. I took it all on. If you wanted a piece of my mind-there was more than enough to go around and I was just the sort to let you have it whilst remaining a lady,there was no compromise on that part. I suppose I suffered from Frank-face-bold-face-in-your-face overload. I may have just painted a very bad picture here of myself,but I'm not so bad, *embarrassed face*. Point? The fact the I was constantly fighting battles meant I was constantly losing time and the truth is that ,there are certain situations and people that are not worth your time simply because of the amount of unnecessary stress they come with. They behold no promise for great things, no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. So what exactly will you be fighting for?..The reality is that there is often nothing much to gain from petty battles. The worry,the fear,the constant calculated behaviour was choking my spontaneity. Taking on everything was burdensome!
Just last night I was speaking with a close and considerably older friend of mine and she said to me..." Jesus was the son of God and they did not like him, who are you for everybody to like you?" and she is right. Our glorified senses of self make us feel entitled to stress free existences when the reality is that not everyone will like you or have your best interest at heart. There are people we expect to care about us and not give us battles to begin with and they do not spare us! For some it may be parents and close family, long term friends, spouses or boyfriends and what we commonly expect from people who have made it clear that they do not like us for the simple reason that they just don't-and owe us no explanation for their misguided hating.
Priority therefore causes us to pick battles with people that matter to us. We have to fight causes we care for OR we choose to not fight these causes because we just don't want the bad-blood and awkwardness that comes with confrontation ..SOooo we choose to fight off the scavenging rats at our feet after all..We must keep the stress away!
..But how do we determine who and what is truly worth our time?
On any given day-I choose what qualifies for my time. I must select what is entitled to give me inevitable grey hair.
Choose your battles wisely.Considering that your time is your most precious asset-it would be a great shame to expend such a resource recklessly.
When it comes to any given relationship, you have to weigh your expectations against what the individual in question has presented themselves capable of.Are you facing a battle of disrespect?-Are people disregarding your value? Have you set clear boundaries about whats simply not going to fly with you? You might just want to do that. Don't swing up in someone's face with saucy and unnecessary attitude if you haven't clearly expressed what you stand and do not stand for. Take responsibility for letting that one slide out of your net. If you have made it clear and you're still facing such an issue- Your best battle strategy at this point is to cut such an individual off. People need to marinate in their own juices sometimes. When you separate yourself from people-you have an opportunity to identify whether either one of you serve a worth while purpose in each others lives.
Time is of the essence and you do not have enough of it to spend with people who are determined to deplete your resource,all of this,because they have realized this is the only loophole they have at destroying you. When you come to a greater understand and appreciation of yourself-you do not give every and anything your time- it is dispensed to those who earn it. There are instances where people will pick fights with you for sake of jealousy or any unresolved issue within themselves.It may be a case where you have not prompted or intentionally provoked this individual. This is not your battle to fight. This is someone's insecurity making manifest and trying to impede your progress in life.
The only battles you should be fighting are those that bring you closer to self actualization.
Not those over guys or emotional politics.
Not those where it is clearly evident that persons are trying to provoke you.
Not petty reputation-tarnishing social media scandal.
It is as simple as picking your battles wisely.
I think C. Joybell summed it up pretty well:
“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn't measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It's not winning battles that makes you happy, but it's how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.”
Soulfully 'n Selective:)
Stella
Every day we open our eyes, we are awaken to fight another battle.Some people wake up feeling over joyed each morning but that does not mean they are not fighting their own battles-It means that they are winning.Some people also seem like they never have serious issues to confront and that truly may not be the case. It is more than likely that these people are masters of decision. These persons know how to pick their battles.
Life presents you with an abundance of everything. It is a matter of what you choose to accept and in turn what you choose to reject. You might be feeling a great sense of lack in one aspect or more in your life right now-but it is truly not as bad as you may think. How do I know so?..well for the simple fact that you may be reading this from a computer or an android phone. A great privilege not afforded to the starving millions on the east side of the globe.
Perhaps you feel stressed and you are experiencing a certain level of frustration where you wish you simply did not have to deal with what you're feeling very forced to deal with right now. When you are placed in a position to pick ,it because of external imposition. Where battles are concerned-it is a case where persons are forcing issues upon you that you would honestly rather not deal with.Guys, let me make this more relate-able.
Before settling into the great calm of my new found self- I was quite a pepper, and unfortunate force to reckon with once war was concerned. Once the line was crossed-I was out for blood. I didn't know how to let things slide. I took it all on. If you wanted a piece of my mind-there was more than enough to go around and I was just the sort to let you have it whilst remaining a lady,there was no compromise on that part. I suppose I suffered from Frank-face-bold-face-in-your-face overload. I may have just painted a very bad picture here of myself,but I'm not so bad, *embarrassed face*. Point? The fact the I was constantly fighting battles meant I was constantly losing time and the truth is that ,there are certain situations and people that are not worth your time simply because of the amount of unnecessary stress they come with. They behold no promise for great things, no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. So what exactly will you be fighting for?..The reality is that there is often nothing much to gain from petty battles. The worry,the fear,the constant calculated behaviour was choking my spontaneity. Taking on everything was burdensome!
Just last night I was speaking with a close and considerably older friend of mine and she said to me..." Jesus was the son of God and they did not like him, who are you for everybody to like you?" and she is right. Our glorified senses of self make us feel entitled to stress free existences when the reality is that not everyone will like you or have your best interest at heart. There are people we expect to care about us and not give us battles to begin with and they do not spare us! For some it may be parents and close family, long term friends, spouses or boyfriends and what we commonly expect from people who have made it clear that they do not like us for the simple reason that they just don't-and owe us no explanation for their misguided hating.
Priority therefore causes us to pick battles with people that matter to us. We have to fight causes we care for OR we choose to not fight these causes because we just don't want the bad-blood and awkwardness that comes with confrontation ..SOooo we choose to fight off the scavenging rats at our feet after all..We must keep the stress away!
..But how do we determine who and what is truly worth our time?
On any given day-I choose what qualifies for my time. I must select what is entitled to give me inevitable grey hair.
Choose your battles wisely.Considering that your time is your most precious asset-it would be a great shame to expend such a resource recklessly.
When it comes to any given relationship, you have to weigh your expectations against what the individual in question has presented themselves capable of.Are you facing a battle of disrespect?-Are people disregarding your value? Have you set clear boundaries about whats simply not going to fly with you? You might just want to do that. Don't swing up in someone's face with saucy and unnecessary attitude if you haven't clearly expressed what you stand and do not stand for. Take responsibility for letting that one slide out of your net. If you have made it clear and you're still facing such an issue- Your best battle strategy at this point is to cut such an individual off. People need to marinate in their own juices sometimes. When you separate yourself from people-you have an opportunity to identify whether either one of you serve a worth while purpose in each others lives.
Time is of the essence and you do not have enough of it to spend with people who are determined to deplete your resource,all of this,because they have realized this is the only loophole they have at destroying you. When you come to a greater understand and appreciation of yourself-you do not give every and anything your time- it is dispensed to those who earn it. There are instances where people will pick fights with you for sake of jealousy or any unresolved issue within themselves.It may be a case where you have not prompted or intentionally provoked this individual. This is not your battle to fight. This is someone's insecurity making manifest and trying to impede your progress in life.
The only battles you should be fighting are those that bring you closer to self actualization.
Not those over guys or emotional politics.
Not those where it is clearly evident that persons are trying to provoke you.
Not petty reputation-tarnishing social media scandal.
It is as simple as picking your battles wisely.
I think C. Joybell summed it up pretty well:
“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn't measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It's not winning battles that makes you happy, but it's how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.”
Soulfully 'n Selective:)
Stella
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