Society's expectations are unfair.Society is made up of men and women-so to get straight to the point, Men's expectations of women are unfair.Certain guys to be precise. I will take this opportunity to say that many females have brought severe and irremovable tarnish to our reputation as women-and that much cannot be denied,HOWEVER-the words that come out of the mouths of some males who claim to be men just astonishes me.
There is nothing wrong with having great expectations.This is why we have moved forward in society-because individuals' great expectations at some point became attainable.
But formality aside,Let me just get straight to it.
Some men are quick to set standards concerning women. However, what I have come to learn is that this double standard.Men have expectations for "tings". I would go on to list some of the other names-but I cannot. It brings me great shame to know that some of my sisters are walking with these titles behind them,some even unbeknownst to them.
Let me tell you something.
A man is responsible. If you sexed somebody's daughter,impregnated her and left her to fend for your child on her own just so you can continue to spend money to accessorize yourself to jump into more panties-You are not "MAN".
A man is caring. If you beat down on the woman you claim to love due to childhood trama or your own insecurities.You are not a "MAN" as yet.You need to set an appointment for some much needed counseling,free this woman and keep your blood pressure low.
A man learns to manage his finances. If you're living above your means, to impress and keep people around,you may be living a houdini reality . You are not a "MAN" as yet. I can assure you that the friends will disappear just as quick as the money.
A man respects his Mother.If you going around the place taking harshly and rudely to her-even trying to hit her or not help her when she asks .....as if she was not the same person who wiped your stink butt and fed your hungry behind and ensured that you can be the staggering ungrateful sack of skin you are today-then ....you already know-You are not "MAN".
I could go on.
What stings is that these very men,who by their own habits,affect women and unfortunately mold their standards, continue to perpetuate such bullshit. SOME guys amount to very little and are damaging women out there-making it very hard for them to keep their heads up .These guys do very little to afford the right to have balls between their legs.If my rawness offends you-I apologize but the truth remains the truth because it is these balls which sadly dominate the egos of our generation.
The toxicity of some male thoughts which guys themselves have confessed to is baffling.
Some guys, by now have stopped reading or made the decision that this is the last post of mine they will ever read-but I like to keep it 100.
We live in a world where the God given responsibility of being a father is now assumed by women,not widows,these men are alive and capable or assisting women raise their children and shirk the responsibility.
This is also the world where men have gone completely off their sexual hinges with perverts and pedophiles running rampant. Don't believe me? youtube NBC's perverted justice.
Within this same sphere we have men who are so tantalized by the exposure of women's flesh, that they are offended by a decently clad women-to the point where they can't even seem to give her positive notice. How dare she cover her cleavage. She's so inconsiderate,now I have to break my neck to peer under her skirt. So who told her she has the right to wear clothes loose enough that she can take a couple of breaths after having a big meal. I know right guys- dignity and decency is so last century-I don't get women either.
Most guys are loving women in phases and sadly women are adjusting-believing that he's promising her forever. Most guys admit that they are not interested in marrying the female with whom they are having their sexual escapades. WHY? because these females do not embody the values that these men hope to pass on to their child. She can't cook,She can't clean,She doesn't pray,she doesn't have good family relations and values,She is vain and you foresee a massive hole in your bank account due to her expenditure on material pursuits.She is good for something though-and that one need she satisfied completely liquefies your brains to the fact that she isn't compatible with what you ultimately want from a woman in this life.
Some men are just a bit too shady.
A bit too tired looking from hauling beer-bellies around.
A bit too complacent after doing nothing all day and making no attempt to be providers.
A bit too aggressive to their physically inferior female counter-parts.
A bit too conniving and demanding and insultive when it comes to standard they as men can't up hold.
Where are the goals and ambition? Where is the determination that fostered formidable relations in society?Where are the men?
I may be late in saying this but I would like to take this opportunity to say Kudos to those men who have assumed their role in society,in the family,and in relationships and as can be put spiritually-the head of the household.Kudos to the men who do work hard. Who go home so tired that their exhausted snoring annoys their children.Kudos to the those who treat the women in their lives with respect and who also cherish the innocence of children. Kudos to the men who are financially responsible and can deny instant gratification. Kudos to the men who do not speak barbarically of women who have trusted them in intimacy. Kudos to the men who understand their pivotal role in society and that we women are depending on them. Kudos to those who make an honest living and see no benefit in um braying passers-by.
We appreciate you!
We apologies on behalf of your brothers who work shameless to put your good work in the shade.We see you breaking that 9 to 5 sweat.We see you making those anniversary dinner reservations. We see you walking through town juggling baby and umbrella. We see you.
Now.
To the ladies. Yes, I may have bawayed the guys on your behalf but some of you need to cut it out! Stop doing things to make guys talk bad about you. Stop calling yourselves and other women bad-bitches.Its a filthy,shameless,ignorant habit. A bitch is a female dog.Adding bad before it does not translate into you being the empress of the Nile or something. Don't be foolish. Sister always said to us, yes I went to a convent. "CLASS AND DECORUM". No body cares if you're a belle fleur sans l'odeur-that means a beautiful flower with no smell. Men have a responsibility.We have one too! We all want someone to put a ring on it. Wifey-material is more than sitting in front of his car and being the one invited to his family functions. It is more than being the eye candy in his entourage. You owe it to yourself to be a woman that COMMANDS respect from a man. When you walk by or when he talks in your absence-He can talk honorably. Be a woman that if you had to squeeze his throat to help him cough out his respect for you,you would be able to do it,because you know yourself and what you stand for.
Some things need to be said.Some just lack the cojones to say it.
Unapologetically Soulful:)
There is nothing wrong with having great expectations.This is why we have moved forward in society-because individuals' great expectations at some point became attainable.
But formality aside,Let me just get straight to it.
It sickens me to hear the way some men speak about women. "ting","My dawg,you eh bash DAT yet". Let me tell you, you just can't help but tune in. More ladies would be afraid of men if they knew the sorts of traps some of these lazy,jobless,theif-ing,sex-crazed,perverted impressionists had.
Now don't get me wrong,some of these vultures have jobs. Some actually work hard behind a desk, and even harder to jump into the nearest panties as soon as possible. Some guys are not thieves but they do steal your time,because they can be a complete waste. Ladies,do not be swooned easily by his command of the English language you know. Yes,that is flawless subject and verb agreement dancing out of his mouth right now. Oh yes! He's aware of global issues-He even sympathizes with the Philippines. Don't be fooled.Some will even go that far to tamper with your emotions.Some men are quick to set standards concerning women. However, what I have come to learn is that this double standard.Men have expectations for "tings". I would go on to list some of the other names-but I cannot. It brings me great shame to know that some of my sisters are walking with these titles behind them,some even unbeknownst to them.
Let me tell you something.
A man is responsible. If you sexed somebody's daughter,impregnated her and left her to fend for your child on her own just so you can continue to spend money to accessorize yourself to jump into more panties-You are not "MAN".
A man is caring. If you beat down on the woman you claim to love due to childhood trama or your own insecurities.You are not a "MAN" as yet.You need to set an appointment for some much needed counseling,free this woman and keep your blood pressure low.
A man learns to manage his finances. If you're living above your means, to impress and keep people around,you may be living a houdini reality . You are not a "MAN" as yet. I can assure you that the friends will disappear just as quick as the money.
A man respects his Mother.If you going around the place taking harshly and rudely to her-even trying to hit her or not help her when she asks .....as if she was not the same person who wiped your stink butt and fed your hungry behind and ensured that you can be the staggering ungrateful sack of skin you are today-then ....you already know-You are not "MAN".
I could go on.
What stings is that these very men,who by their own habits,affect women and unfortunately mold their standards, continue to perpetuate such bullshit. SOME guys amount to very little and are damaging women out there-making it very hard for them to keep their heads up .These guys do very little to afford the right to have balls between their legs.If my rawness offends you-I apologize but the truth remains the truth because it is these balls which sadly dominate the egos of our generation.
The toxicity of some male thoughts which guys themselves have confessed to is baffling.
Some guys, by now have stopped reading or made the decision that this is the last post of mine they will ever read-but I like to keep it 100.
We live in a world where the God given responsibility of being a father is now assumed by women,not widows,these men are alive and capable or assisting women raise their children and shirk the responsibility.
This is also the world where men have gone completely off their sexual hinges with perverts and pedophiles running rampant. Don't believe me? youtube NBC's perverted justice.
Within this same sphere we have men who are so tantalized by the exposure of women's flesh, that they are offended by a decently clad women-to the point where they can't even seem to give her positive notice. How dare she cover her cleavage. She's so inconsiderate,now I have to break my neck to peer under her skirt. So who told her she has the right to wear clothes loose enough that she can take a couple of breaths after having a big meal. I know right guys- dignity and decency is so last century-I don't get women either.
Most guys are loving women in phases and sadly women are adjusting-believing that he's promising her forever. Most guys admit that they are not interested in marrying the female with whom they are having their sexual escapades. WHY? because these females do not embody the values that these men hope to pass on to their child. She can't cook,She can't clean,She doesn't pray,she doesn't have good family relations and values,She is vain and you foresee a massive hole in your bank account due to her expenditure on material pursuits.She is good for something though-and that one need she satisfied completely liquefies your brains to the fact that she isn't compatible with what you ultimately want from a woman in this life.
Some men are just a bit too shady.
A bit too tired looking from hauling beer-bellies around.
A bit too complacent after doing nothing all day and making no attempt to be providers.
A bit too aggressive to their physically inferior female counter-parts.
A bit too conniving and demanding and insultive when it comes to standard they as men can't up hold.
Where are the goals and ambition? Where is the determination that fostered formidable relations in society?Where are the men?
I may be late in saying this but I would like to take this opportunity to say Kudos to those men who have assumed their role in society,in the family,and in relationships and as can be put spiritually-the head of the household.Kudos to the men who do work hard. Who go home so tired that their exhausted snoring annoys their children.Kudos to the those who treat the women in their lives with respect and who also cherish the innocence of children. Kudos to the men who are financially responsible and can deny instant gratification. Kudos to the men who do not speak barbarically of women who have trusted them in intimacy. Kudos to the men who understand their pivotal role in society and that we women are depending on them. Kudos to those who make an honest living and see no benefit in um braying passers-by.
We appreciate you!
We apologies on behalf of your brothers who work shameless to put your good work in the shade.We see you breaking that 9 to 5 sweat.We see you making those anniversary dinner reservations. We see you walking through town juggling baby and umbrella. We see you.
Now.
To the ladies. Yes, I may have bawayed the guys on your behalf but some of you need to cut it out! Stop doing things to make guys talk bad about you. Stop calling yourselves and other women bad-bitches.Its a filthy,shameless,ignorant habit. A bitch is a female dog.Adding bad before it does not translate into you being the empress of the Nile or something. Don't be foolish. Sister always said to us, yes I went to a convent. "CLASS AND DECORUM". No body cares if you're a belle fleur sans l'odeur-that means a beautiful flower with no smell. Men have a responsibility.We have one too! We all want someone to put a ring on it. Wifey-material is more than sitting in front of his car and being the one invited to his family functions. It is more than being the eye candy in his entourage. You owe it to yourself to be a woman that COMMANDS respect from a man. When you walk by or when he talks in your absence-He can talk honorably. Be a woman that if you had to squeeze his throat to help him cough out his respect for you,you would be able to do it,because you know yourself and what you stand for.
Some things need to be said.Some just lack the cojones to say it.
Unapologetically Soulful:)
Awesome read, nailed it.
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