Be your own Boyfriend!

Be your OWN boyfriend??!?! Is Stella flipping nuts?

I know! I know!..The title comes across as some sort of desperate attempt at consoling the throngs of single women out there but I believe that that, is just what we need. Perhaps this stems from the fact that I too am young and single. HOWEVER it does not take away from the fact that many women really do need to hear this.

Unfortunately, this may humour the guys and confuse the very established and dependent ladies-if you "taken ladies" are dependent of course.

                         * SIGH*

I have been BOMBARDED by snooty remarks about  what people assume to be my ridiculously high expectations.I know I'm not the only one dealing with this as takens have a way or making singles feel like they might be missing out or playing their cards wrong. Conversations that I have had with other young women say so. 

A boyfriend is becoming more of an accessory,much like a staple black dress or a hot shade of lipstick.There are some women though,who can attest to not feeling any sort of external pressure to pair up. I think that's  just due to them being sheltered by other single friends or persons who make them think its okay...and really,it is okay to be single.

The external pressure is quite something.The constant "why"s and "nice girl like you"  are irritating!

 And though I don't believe I am as phased by it as the next young woman..... maybe I am,considering that I am dedicating time from my life (that I will never get back) to write up my views.

The fact and the struggle that we ladies face is that good,decent,upstanding men are becoming harder to find-virtually on the brink of extinction. Now, forgive us if we opt to not jump or even look at the first bone that is  thrown our way, but what wider and taken society needs to understand is that SINGLE does not mean desperate.Single also does not translate into "searching" or "needy". Some young women are very in tune with themselves and their priorities and understand that they just cannot quite adequately deal with the expectations or the obligations of having a boo. Some women have decided to be their own boyfriends-for now anyway and that is commendable. 

Why do I think so?!?!????!!

..well,for one-Having a man is surprisingly a greater priority to some women than gaining an education,refining their skill set or becoming more financially independent. There are still women who believe that they need a man do bring groceries home, pay for them to get their  nails done and sponsor ever expanding wardrobes in addition to the air they breath.They are offended by the idea that they should ever have to pay for anything in the presence of a man far less the idea of treating him and footing the bill...WHAT?..I know right.In this blessed day and age. Mercy Ladies!!

The fact that honorable standards that men once did esteem are slowly going to the dogs does not mean that there are no good men left. I suppose they're still around,maybe under the nearest rock or up in the forested hillside.If you're lucky,he may even bump into you in your next class,or in the supermarket or at your friend's party or through a friend of a friend of a friend told a friend that he has had his eyes on you since the day he discovered a magnificent beauty like you exists.Whatever your love story. Till the right guy comes along-be your own boyfriend. Take yourself out. Flatter yourself! Do all the things you would like him to do for you.He's on his way-be patient.What you should not do,is rush to settle with the next JimJohn that licks his chapped lips at you just because you feel need. 

In the absence of your dream guy,refine yourself. Become the woman that you believe a man of his caliber deserves and desires. Be your own boyfriend still your dream guy comes along and forget about what other people have to say.Its perfectly fine to have great expectations and a dream guy prancing around in your fantasies because pretty soon he'll be pracing out of your head and walking in your direction..making you buckle at the knees...

Dreams come true...

Keep that in mind the next time you're being teased about not having a boo.

Apologetically Soulful.

X