I am a firm believer in the remarkable capabilities of women.Our bodies and willpower are testament that we were designed for great things. Over the years we have made head way in many respectable fields and earned the respect of our male counterparts. We're speaking on the grand scheme of thing though and here, on Soulfully Stella ,we like to keep things real,home bound and personal. One avenue I feel we as women have entered which is simply not for us is EMOTIONAL POLITICS.
Woman was created for Man and there is this innate longing for women to at some point have a companion,be it to have and to hold or in whom to find confidant. Women love men! Its nothing to be ashamed of. I am not speaking with the intent to stir scandal. I am merely stating fact. You of course, understand that there are exceptions to what I've just said.
One of St.Lucia's popular comedians and one of my favourites from Che' Campeche- Coaks said to his friend Baylooks- to every one man there are 15 women. (I don't believe that's an accurate quote but you get the point). There is a popular song,it goes like this-
"Man Shortage! all around the world! Its a crucial situation. Man Shortage! and so many lonely girls"
..And it is because of this imaginary "man shortage" that we women are breaking necks for men.We are vying for affection. We are contesting and promoting and amplifying ourselves if needs be,far past our own realities. We are willing to do whatever it takes to get whatever we want. Now, don't get me wrong-in any other circumstance,that may just be an amazing characteristic HOWEVER, tis not so as it relates to men. We are destroying our fellow women as if we still exist in primitive times. The "natural selection" or as commonly known " survival of the fittest " mentality has sprung up and these are truly cut throat times. Women are flocking to men who initially possess irresistible characteristics but as time passes it becomes evident that all was not as it seemed.
It is an unfortunate reality,but many women have lost money, time ,peace of mind and friendships in the pursuit of men. Such is indicative of low self esteem.It has already been registered in your mind that you are not sufficient to naturally gain this guy's affection and so you hatch a plot to capture him for yourself.
Ladies! Ladies! Ladies!
I know I've made it sound crazy and unrealistic but trust me-it is very real and its time to stop. More so,any man who sits back and watches you fight to the death with some woman,without the slightest inkling to intervene is not worth the time. He clearly lacks respect for you. He is suppose to ensure transparency in a relationship. He should leave nothing to your imagination. If clarity is what you need-he should give it. It is also important that you in turn trust your boo and not be overbearing.
Emotional politics is time consuming and involves all unsavory tactics if the need so arises. Now, you must really ask yourself- is this man worth it? You may invest plenty of time trying to make a catch that does not even want to be in your net. A man who wants you-(loves you) is straight up with others. A serious man makes no bones about where his eyes have fallen or who has his heart. If you find that this person is entertaining others whilst trying to capture your valuable attention then he may have quite an ego-as he may have concluded that he can put in half the time/dedication/commitment and get the whole prize, which is you.
Sisters, we have been looking at distorted images all these years. Many women have placed focus on antagonizing women. So, wappen to da fellas?aa!
We have big egos you know!..when women start fussing and fighting over guys,its never really about the guys. It starts of that way but our inflated senses of self cause us to push guys aside like the sacks on meat we unfortunately at times see them as and it becomes a head on battle with "the other woman" and we're at it till someone "K.O"s .(knocks out-street fighter *embarrassed face*)
Emotional politics is a red flag in the game of Love. You should not have to contest for a spot in a man's life. If he wants you there,he will make room for you. We create space for the things we want. If he wants you-He wants YOU. You don't have to be creating ruction for a man's attention. What's yours is yours. Don't go lambasting other women, spoiling their reputations and down-right hurting people. Seriously,just stop!, in the name of love,before you break your OWN heart. It sounds crazy but its inevitable if that's the road you're on.
We are pioneers in many fields and things. We have challenged men and even succeeded in avenues that they discovered and we have done better in some . Men for some very valid reasons never paid particular attention to emotional politics. They avoid it. They make allowances for their bro's. They stand tall and ripe for the picking but they don't go trying to knock the other guy down. Maybe it happens and I just don't see it- but if so,its truly very rare. Emotional politics has a way of feeding and revealing the negatives in yourself that you did not even know were there. You don't want that-believe me, life is hard enough on some days without such petty obstructions.
There will also be instances where women will want to challenge you for a guy that has taken interest in you. They will call you to the plate. They might disrespect you and try to cross lines that surpass the guy and head straight you as a person. The same applies- You have nothing to prove! Ignore those salty looks and hateful auras, the negative whisper-tone gossip and the rallying of bored, "no-life" acquaintances.
Emotional politics does not need your domination or valuable time.
There are better things to do in a day than sass other women, especially if its in hopes of getting validation from a man.
Unapologetically Soulful *wink*
Woman was created for Man and there is this innate longing for women to at some point have a companion,be it to have and to hold or in whom to find confidant. Women love men! Its nothing to be ashamed of. I am not speaking with the intent to stir scandal. I am merely stating fact. You of course, understand that there are exceptions to what I've just said.
One of St.Lucia's popular comedians and one of my favourites from Che' Campeche- Coaks said to his friend Baylooks- to every one man there are 15 women. (I don't believe that's an accurate quote but you get the point). There is a popular song,it goes like this-
"Man Shortage! all around the world! Its a crucial situation. Man Shortage! and so many lonely girls"
..And it is because of this imaginary "man shortage" that we women are breaking necks for men.We are vying for affection. We are contesting and promoting and amplifying ourselves if needs be,far past our own realities. We are willing to do whatever it takes to get whatever we want. Now, don't get me wrong-in any other circumstance,that may just be an amazing characteristic HOWEVER, tis not so as it relates to men. We are destroying our fellow women as if we still exist in primitive times. The "natural selection" or as commonly known " survival of the fittest " mentality has sprung up and these are truly cut throat times. Women are flocking to men who initially possess irresistible characteristics but as time passes it becomes evident that all was not as it seemed.
- Reality Check.
It is an unfortunate reality,but many women have lost money, time ,peace of mind and friendships in the pursuit of men. Such is indicative of low self esteem.It has already been registered in your mind that you are not sufficient to naturally gain this guy's affection and so you hatch a plot to capture him for yourself.Ladies! Ladies! Ladies!
I know I've made it sound crazy and unrealistic but trust me-it is very real and its time to stop. More so,any man who sits back and watches you fight to the death with some woman,without the slightest inkling to intervene is not worth the time. He clearly lacks respect for you. He is suppose to ensure transparency in a relationship. He should leave nothing to your imagination. If clarity is what you need-he should give it. It is also important that you in turn trust your boo and not be overbearing.
Emotional politics is time consuming and involves all unsavory tactics if the need so arises. Now, you must really ask yourself- is this man worth it? You may invest plenty of time trying to make a catch that does not even want to be in your net. A man who wants you-(loves you) is straight up with others. A serious man makes no bones about where his eyes have fallen or who has his heart. If you find that this person is entertaining others whilst trying to capture your valuable attention then he may have quite an ego-as he may have concluded that he can put in half the time/dedication/commitment and get the whole prize, which is you.
Sisters, we have been looking at distorted images all these years. Many women have placed focus on antagonizing women. So, wappen to da fellas?aa!
We have big egos you know!..when women start fussing and fighting over guys,its never really about the guys. It starts of that way but our inflated senses of self cause us to push guys aside like the sacks on meat we unfortunately at times see them as and it becomes a head on battle with "the other woman" and we're at it till someone "K.O"s .(knocks out-street fighter *embarrassed face*)
Self Awareness
Hey! you have to know what you bring to the table. You've have presented yourself as a wholesome dinner for one. You are more than enough so that any man would have no need to try and order another course on your head.A man who respects you and is genuinely interested in you knows how keep the other chicks off. Ladies-they will come. Women are like white on rice for a good,taken man but it is his duty as man to tell them to step off. Don't make it your business to over step his authority and cat-scratch other chicks in the face. Na!- that ain't your job. He's the "man" -let him prove it. Allow him to prove if he's down for you, a midst temptation. You're job is on the other side of the fence. Keep your business together-be the best you that you can possibly be. Keep that attitude 100% positive. Nagging and being nasty is the easiest way to chase your boo into someone else's arms.You're basically telling him.."yes!..both you two stinking trifling..bleep bleeps can shack up-I don't care-I've been trying to get ride of you anyway"Emotional politics is a red flag in the game of Love. You should not have to contest for a spot in a man's life. If he wants you there,he will make room for you. We create space for the things we want. If he wants you-He wants YOU. You don't have to be creating ruction for a man's attention. What's yours is yours. Don't go lambasting other women, spoiling their reputations and down-right hurting people. Seriously,just stop!, in the name of love,before you break your OWN heart. It sounds crazy but its inevitable if that's the road you're on.
We are pioneers in many fields and things. We have challenged men and even succeeded in avenues that they discovered and we have done better in some . Men for some very valid reasons never paid particular attention to emotional politics. They avoid it. They make allowances for their bro's. They stand tall and ripe for the picking but they don't go trying to knock the other guy down. Maybe it happens and I just don't see it- but if so,its truly very rare. Emotional politics has a way of feeding and revealing the negatives in yourself that you did not even know were there. You don't want that-believe me, life is hard enough on some days without such petty obstructions.
If you find yourself victim of emotional politics
There will also be instances where women will want to challenge you for a guy that has taken interest in you. They will call you to the plate. They might disrespect you and try to cross lines that surpass the guy and head straight you as a person. The same applies- You have nothing to prove! Ignore those salty looks and hateful auras, the negative whisper-tone gossip and the rallying of bored, "no-life" acquaintances.Emotional politics does not need your domination or valuable time.
There are better things to do in a day than sass other women, especially if its in hopes of getting validation from a man.
Unapologetically Soulful *wink*
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