Stella's thoughts on "Loving More than one person."

 If you ever find yourself on the end of the spectrum where you have to live with shared affection-I'm sure you'll be offended by what I am about to say-However it is what it is.We are selfish in love. We want to be his or her one and only. There must be no one else- You must see ME,love ME more than anyone else. How you feel about ME must supersede how you've felt about anyone else...because you know.."i" *and I mean you and i readers*..we're here now, but It doesn't work that way and I'll tell you why..

Think of a series of things you have owned in your life. Let's just say Teddy bears,being the owner of a teddy collection-I think I'm a "so-so" expert on this one.I had my first bear when I was one year old. I have pictures with that bear.Bananas were my favourite fruit as a child and I shared many bananas with that bear. When I look at that bear,something happens to my heart..I don't remember much but my heart tells me that I loved that bear dearly. We had a special bond.My collection has expanded and at present,my last bear,Annie,is the apple of my eye.Of course- I'm sure you guys must feel very disrespected by my "immature" example but what I am saying is that it just might be possible to love more than one person/thing. You cannot steal someone's memories. Say this girl, loved this guy...you can't now appear like houdini and make her un-love someone she loved.That's the mistake people make. As oppose to charting our own paths and creating fresh memories,we're trying to compete and  bulldoze walls we could never knock down. 

I think you can love more than one person..but it all depends on what we deem love to be. Love to some is a deep appreciation for someone's differences because this person in their natural state complements the elements deep within you.Love for others is just "like". I  don't want to lose you guys with what I'm about to say..but,think about it. We are many people as a result of experience. Its more than likely that you are not the same person you were three years ago. You probably don't talk or reason as you did back then. You are renewed daily.  If you fell in love when you were 17 and for one reason or another it didn't work and later on in life,you loved again;it doesn't mean that you didn't love the first time. You did! and if you don't grow to resent this person due to you guys separating,chances are-you may always love more than one person because you will go on in life to love again.

“How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I love thee to the depth and breadth and height my soul can reach.”-Elizabeth Barrett

How we love is what makes the difference. I don't think you ever stop loving someone. Perhaps the love is just masked by an emotion much greater. Pain-Jealousy-Pride..something. We may have one heart to love but we'd be foolish to put boundaries on our capacity to love. A broken jar cannot store water...but a broken heart can still love.This just goes to show the flexibility of our love.It doesn't matter how many times you have tried in love and failed in love. You cannot take back the love you give. Your affection remains with whom you have shared it. You have made a choice to seal moments and share in memories you both will one day look back on.

Whether we like it or not,many people have loved more than one person.What makes us think that is wrong is because it insults our desire to be "the one and only "

...I believe that it is possible to love more than one person.Each person that you have ever loved existed in a particular space in time and that time has passed. No future situation can ever alter the beauty of the past. Your love then can be considered frozen in time. You may go on to love others more or never love as you did then,but love is love. Ultimately, if we are fortunate in life we will devote our lives to the person we love the most. How we feel about them would supersede any love we have experienced before...but truthfully-We have loved more than once in life...

And its okay..we were made to love...:) 
Soulfully ..and un-apologetically made to love.