I heard this song and memories kept flooding my mind. My dad plays a lot of lovers rock when he's home. The music I've heard at home growing up inspired the "Conscious Corner" on my blog..and this song especially has really molded my expectations in love.
I expect a lot, or so I've been told by persons. They always sounds like I ask too much or expect too much of someone else.You would think that all persons don't deserve the best for themselves.Its like-who am I to want a list of great characteristics from someone who will in time hold my heart in his hand.I can't help myself though.I have seen a fine example of love between my parents.I won't delve into my parents' relationship but I will tell you this. My daddy has shown me what to expect from a man. He treats my mom with such love and appreciation. By now I'm sure you must be wondering...so..um..,Stella...where does the red wine fit in to all of this.
Countless nights(literally) I have seen these two love birds drink wine together.They go out into the balcony-moonlight and everything and they laugh! They still laugh.After all these years, after children, after "life" and you know sometimes life just isn't easy.
So many young persons are growing up with broken family situations.For one reason or another-things at home just fell apart.I don't think adults understand this though.We are WATCHING you. We see if someone says something and you roll your eyes.We know then,by your example that it is okay to do. As children,especially timid ones,if you look carefully,you would realize that they always look to their parents first when a stranger opens their arms -willing to pick them up.If we sought your approval as children and looked to your example,why then would we not as adults.
Many people think that they just grow into their own persons.They take insult when told they are like a parent or exude a characteristic of any person they once held in high esteem. We would like to think we outgrew these influences.Not entirely.You learn more than you think from your parents example. Fears and deep seated issues as it relates to abandonment, arguments, general disposition, communication, your ability to accept affection/compliments,distortion of self image-it all comes from somewhere.
My point here as we've reached this understanding is not to blame your mom/dad/loving guardian for whatever your have deemed fault within yourself but to let you know something. Even if you were not raised with love,care,consideration,kindness and all other heart tugging "spices of the home"-you deserve love anyway. Don't think you want too much or expect too much. You deserve commitment,devotion,consideration,understanding and someone who loves you enough to compromise when necessary.You deserve these things. You should have great expectations. Aren't you great? Would it be fair to just give yourself away to someone who has not proven themselves to be worth your while?
I won't tell you guys my Mr.Right list. Yes! yesss!..I'm sure some of you still have that thought hissing in your head,telling you there is no Mr. Right. Well,yes there is...there is a Mr. Right for me and one for you and a Mrs.Right for the guys too.
Don't fool yourself into thinking you want too much.Once you're looking on the inner and finer things-then you're on track. Love is not propelled by materialism so,the money,the car,the house,the fancy clothes;essentially,all the things that he/she will die and leave behind have nothing to do with love in its purest form.
You can and will get someone to treat you right if you believe so.....why?..
Because you deserve Love & Red wine..
Soulfully
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