Boy Zone- Why women can't get "good men"

I think this is a question that has plagued "female-kind" for eons, causing many of us to complain and belittle the the scope of men we're presented with. 

At first we're like...

then the reality sinks in and we're like...

and then we're dying to know..

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And ordering this...

But..We pass the buck A-LOT ladies,let's be real here. Its them,not us. They are they problem. They can't recognized. They can't "up" their game. Have you ever sat and thought that men probably sit on the other end of the spectrum thinking, "where are all the honeys at?"..and not from a players perspective but from that of a man who is seeking a good woman and can't seem to locate neither heads or tails of her.


I am a young woman-however I will add my two-cents no doubt by simply stating..You will attract who you are,or who you present yourself to be, all with exceptions of course. You have no right to demand a good man if you in turn are not a good woman. Yes, so you say you are..where is your proof?Sometimes we feel we deserve just because. We must admit-sometimes we have irrational demands and ridiculous expectations.- Soulfully Stella

 By now the guys are probably like this...

NOW, onto the people you really want to hear from. The guys were really passionate about this one and ladies, here is what they had to say;

Pay Attention !  -This much needed class is in session

(look at how I rhymed there..Ha!..tiptoes away*)

 (the guys below are responding in regards to women being unable to get and/or keep a good man-keep that in mind whilst reading,to assist with clarity.)

"Immaturity...and women always expecting...Selfishness"-K.Sonny,20

"I've dated Caribbean women before...and they can be very nosy, pushy and sometimes outright smothering.Often to the point where it is uncomfortable to be in a relationship with them.
Otherwise, they can be so self-focused that they come off as aloof and uncaring.When you add preconceptions and history to the mix, you have a female psyche that has internalized cheating and ill-treatment as natural. They don't know what to do when those things are not present.It has a lot to do with maturity levels too.My current relationship is with an Eritrean-Canadian woman, and she is more supportive, more loving and more involved (without being intrusive and annoying) than any Caribbean woman I've ever been with.She imposes her will, as women will do, but she doesn't compete with me to be a man. She knows her role, and plays it very well.All men, good or otherwise, want a woman who can play the field. Who will be there when we need them, give us space when we need it, and trust that we'll be ok".- Daryl,26

"There is no such thing as good man,just men who want to find a girl worth going through all the bullshit of life with. A 'good man won't ever tell her about the other chicks who wanna be all over him and even if she knows other chicks want him that's only just 20% of all the issues. Women who have gotten good men have been brainwashed to thinks its okay to whine and argue with him because -since he 'loves her' he will forgive and move on..that's bullshit .All she is doing is driving him away and making him think of chicks that just wanna go hang, drama -free girls. Sometimes he/she gets too comfortable an the foundation on which the relationship was built is lost thus making everything there after questionable."-Anonymous,19

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  "Well the main one for me would be if u talk or nag a lot.There would be 2 parts to that like I dislike a loud girl who talks a lot it's a reallll turn off and 2 and girl that just nags for no reason that's just always a way to make simple situations a problem"-Alphius,23

  "I believe the reason women can't get good men is because they look for too much from men. The good me are generally basic and simple styled. But they want that guy with a lil thug in him and makes at least 500k a year. It doesn't happen that way. And many times they do get the good man, but they try try to turn him into what they want him to be. Make him adjust his life style, and habits to suit their curriculum, this makes a man uneasy, and he switches from good to bad. All in all it depends on what you are looking for in a man.... If she aims for realistic qualities, and maybe lower her bar just a 
  bit, she will find that "Good Man"-Cornelius,24

  
  

  
  

  "Reason women can't get a good man is simple their priorities are messed up looking for the glitter not the gold.Well the like things that shine-Not something that is good.For example gold shines but not as brightly as glitter.But women with the eye for good men..Shall notice the gold"

  -Darnelle,23

  
  Women these days tend to have different taste in men... Now because of the media, alot of women tend to look for the wrong things in a guy.... wrong things being the outward appearance how he dresses, whether he wears brand clothes and shoes, does he have money ?a car ?etc By the way this doesn't stand for all women - now the type mentioned above ,the women who chase outward appearance will definitely ignore the dude who comes up to her who doesn't possess these attributes .When they finally get the guy who possesses these traits you find that these guys are more less what you females like to call "DOGS".These guys usually lack the most important things which are found on the inside, the things that all women want a guy who would love ,them be faithful to them alone, compliment them ,be there for them  you know -the guy who would show TLC Noww we have the other type of female THE CONFUSED FEMALE!!- Jesse,19 

  "I just believe that either the guys have been hurt by a girl that they once dated so maybe they lost their trust in women hence manifesting the "douchebag/ dog" title women have for them. Or maybe it's because the society we in right now where u hear some guys talking about how many women they have and how to handle your "game".That's why they can't get a good man. And of course there are still good guys out there"-G.V,20

  
  

  "well that depends on where these women's criteria of a good man lies... because such criteria may vary due to their past experiences with men in relationships or just engaging in conversation with men... or engaging in conversation with someone about men. First of all, we have to admit that women are very phenomenal... and unlike a male, they see things more in depth than men i was reading this article online... I believe it was an excerpt from a book... He admitted that women are easier able to spot out when a man's actions and beliefs speak differently from his words based on these experiences... may be from a heartbreak or etc... they have their criteria... sometimes the criteria may depend on their social stature (just like the opposite gender would consider it at times) or just plainly the experience with the scenario of getting a man... sometimes these criteria may be so overwhelming that filtering out the perfect man may seem difficult as far as keeping the man on the other hand... the criteria still applies in this instance... but this is not always the case where the criteria is so broad that they cannot keep the man. Men do some stupid things then other men try and compensate to other women by saying they're not what their other man was... but again... women are able to sense whether their actions speak in sync with their words... such a phenomenal gender."-Chad,23

  
  

  And here are some quotes, I found them to be a good read..or "good reads"..if people even say that :$
  
  
  

  Well, it seems to me that the best relationships - the ones that last - are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is... suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.” ― Gillian Anderson

  
  

  “It’s probably not just by chance that I’m alone. It would be very hard for a man to live with me, unless he’s terribly strong. And if he’s stronger than I, I’m the one who can’t live with him. … I’m neither smart nor stupid, but I don’t think I’m a run-of-the-mill person. I’ve been in business without being a businesswoman, I’ve loved without being a woman made only for love. The two men I’ve loved, I think, will remember me, on earth or in heaven, because men always remember a woman who caused them concern and uneasiness. I’ve done my best, in regard to people and to life, without precepts, but with a taste for justice.” ― Coco Chanel
  
  “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” ― Anaïs Nin

  
  As the years have gone one,we have greater expectations of men,yet accept a lot less-We have allowed ourselves to be subject to some of the mediocrity we encounter,by our simple deportment as females. Example; You can't bare your cleavage and get upset when he finds it hard to stare into your eyes romantically -he will be distract as you probably would be if he just started rubbing baby oil on his muscles or something. Men appreciate a challenge. Have you proven yourself to be a worthy opponent?

  With this being said- I hope you guys enjoyed the topic...Till next time
  
  Soulfully Yours
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