Being taken for a ride.

Today,my day included lots and lots of wandering which in turn allowed my mind wonder quite a bit. I wondered a lot about some persons who still have a spot in my life,a spot in my heart and a spot on my list of things to pine and "over-think" about.

Honestly Bumpkins,to be straight and to-the-point with you;stepping out of my teenage years has really presented some serious challenges when it comes to analyzing characters-discerning who is real and who is not. Being a trusting person by nature,its hard to even come to terms with the fact that some person will not have genuine intentions or your well-being at heart -though they give the impression that they do.It will be your job to figure them out,not because you have time to "study" people but because these people interact with you and you need to regulate the influences in your life.

"Catching feelings" for persons before you've clearly understood their intentions for you is like heading into a danger zone. You will find yourself plunging headfirst propelled by raw emotion into a brick wall. Getting taken for a ride is not as much fun as it sounds-Trust me. I am the "type" who enjoys intellectual bonding ,insightful conversations and sentimental sharing.I find myself or at least I use find myself going "soft" for persons with a story.We all have one but some more touching than others.

Unrequited love ...a.k.a rejection is a tough pill to swallow. It can choke the mind. It can choke the ego.Quite frankly,you don't need to be wasting any time with someone who is undecided about you...because eventually you become "undecided about you". You start to internalize external conflicts. You may start to try to bring closure to issues you do not understand by simply taking blame but you should understand that things of that nature (though I may not know of your situation or if you even have one to begin with) are not always your fault.

Listen-Be mindful of the things that people say to you. Be aware enough that you don't miss red flags that shoot up when a person's words and action contradict each other. Most importantly, listen to yourself and by that I mean the little guiding voice within your head that gives you a feeling that sumn just ain't right.

Accept.If it so manifest that your suspicions are proving true-accept your findings and move on with life.Simply put. Don't pine and over-think. It is what it is.

Grudging. Bumpkins...grudging is soo easy at times,we don't even realize we do it. Some people are under the impression that it takes effort to grudge but not all the time. Thats why we've found ourselves doing it. When we grudge, its like out mind has constructed this automatic steel wall to come up every time we see who we grudge. If the person is walking left...we cross..we walk "right"...If in inescapable company of this person..we have to tip toe. It sounds like work-I know,but the mind is begining to formulate a habit. You have registered this persons as "dangerous" to your physical or mental well-being and your mind would be working to rewire itself to as to keep you safe and away from this person/threat.

If you're vigilant enough and you Listen (Like wht the first pointer states), you shouldn't find yourself in a situation too sticky that you can't free yourself.

Toodles Bumpkins
Till Next time X