Ex Boyfriends N Gros Pwel Part One

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That point where you realize its going to take a lot more time..this time to get over it.

... you're constantly making comparisons between him and everyone else..

Nobody seems to really be able to out-do him.

You can't quite seem to click on that deep level with anyone.

It can be soo irritating..especially when you get to the point where you're thinking.."shit!..its been that long"..n u realize that you thought you were getting over it..but you're not as over it as you thought you were...

Now ..for those of you thus far in the blog who don't know what i'm talking about...I'm talking about..Boyfriends..The type that sweep you off your feet and for whatever reasons...you two find yourself splitting up.See, irrespective of whatever issues you two had...its like..they fail in comparison to the magnificence which was..you and him together...N now you're feeling like you're in shit street because erthang just seem to be jammed at this point and you can't figure your way forward concerning the break up.

This post right here..before you read any more..isn't jammed packed with solutions..I just want you to know that...the struggle is real sistuh..n i feel you...But trust ..That i'd never leave you guys hanging just like that.

OHH..
It slipped me that some readers aren't St.lucian and wouldn't know what "gros pwel " is..

Gros Pwel my dear friends is part of our local parlance which expresses the grief and all the other "symptoms "that come with losing a lover .. Eg..no appetite,always thinking, getting "meg" Meg=skinny...

The struggle is very real out there..and the frustration you will feel when you know you let a good catch go ..is enough to make you just lay in bed and do nothing ...whole day.. But..Huneybumpkins..

Life must go on.. The sun will rise in the morning..best to rise and shine with it.

There is the possibility that you two may get back together..and then the tough reality for others is that...yall will never..ever...ever..get back together (8) 

So ...learn to take it in strides.

You will miss him.

You will want to call and talk..

You will even find yourself calling with nothing to say..

You will be mad at yourself from your shameless and evident weakness.

..but thts what love is ..you know...its being weak with someone..letting your guard down and trusting..

remember to eat and drink...I know it sounds crazy..but if the mind is working hard n fast enough...you're gona lose track of time..and lose a significant amount of weight..which is not as attractive as it sounds.

Give yourself a break...this break may take a few months if you have the support of persons or it may take  years depending on your bond with your partner..but take as long as you need to to put things into perspective.....

To be continued...

I am a Caribbean lady after all...Enjoy:)