I haven't blogged for a couple of days..Sorry..Had some stuff i had to be actively involved in to deal with them properly.The storm is sort of over..i suppose..and now I've gained new perspective on matters.I had some serious introspection going on,simply because when there aren't many people you can talk to or trust with issues you tend to turn in on yourself.
I know i seem really inconsistent with my blogging sometimes but i always want to bring a positive message to my readers...and well...being young too has its own complications.I want to keep my issues separate and not intoxicate the lives of people who turn here for good direction.
This week i learnt that God is always on time for what is meant to be..
Eg.I had a dinner to attend this week out of serious obligation.I HAD to be there but for some reason..nothing seemed to work out..Dress and shoes didn't get to St. Lucia on time..Lots of stuff were just blowing up about the place.However..on the day of the dinner..the dress and everything else still wasn't here..but everything was moving and coming together so that i would attend that dinner. I did.It was fabulous.I got drunk apparently but with responsible friends who'd take care of me.Don't do that though..its stupid..lol.
Any who..to the life filter point right?..I've concluded that we actively need to keep filtering the influences which come into our lives.There will be people and things we come across and we must use our discretion and inner compass to lead us to the right place. It is hard most times..doing the right thing as most times everyone else is doing something else and we can't help but what to do what other people are doing,be where they are,hang with the crowd.We are by nature social beings and acceptance from others is very important,no matter how small or large the group of people we seek it from. However as maturing individuals it is important none the less to filter the persons in your life.Analyse the purpose of the people you have in your life.How do they contribute to your betterment.(a positive contribution..not necessarily anything material). As we grow older,decisions will only become harder as expectations increase and it becomes vital to have as little dead weight as possible hindering your progress and pursuit of self actualization.
It seems callous but given a tough situation,you may find yourself realizing that you need to cut some people loose..especially if they do not genuinely care about you.To be our best selves..much like a plant which needs a conducive environment,we too,as people need an environment which fosters our development.Being among people who constantly take and drain you is not healthy, indeed,it is the natural inclination of some people to want to reach out and be there for everyone,but life will teach you that you cannot save everyone.
Many times in our pursuit to be socialites and part of the in/fun crowd we sell yourself short on our morals and values. We focus on quantity and not quality.We figure perhaps..having lots of friends is a great idea..and indeed it can be..But only if genuine relations exist with those vast numbers.Wanting to be on everyone's good side makes for a great nights sleep i suppose. Life however doesn't always work out that way as there will be people who dislike you just because you are who you are whether or not you offended them in any way-We cannot please everyone..but moreover we cannot people everyone and continuously live our lives dissatisfied.
In the very same way doctors amputate limbs which are sick or diseased..It is okay to cut strings and break off relationships which are unhealthy or risk the spreading of disease to uncontaminated parts..that is..you.It is also important to note that breaking any bond is never really easy and residual feelings and discomfort will remain with you for a while.You may wonder if you're doing the right thing till you realize the benefits of what was once a hard decision. Much like the amputee..you may miss your limb occasionally..that much is expected...But you can only trust that you're better off without it..granted that you concluded that this person or thing was unhealthy and would amount to nothing purposeful in your life..prior to ur decision to cut them off.
We win some and we lose some..but of those we win..it's important that they are true...for as we grow older..we will all realize that its better to have a few true friends..than lots who are not...
Soulfully..Yours
Stella
I know i seem really inconsistent with my blogging sometimes but i always want to bring a positive message to my readers...and well...being young too has its own complications.I want to keep my issues separate and not intoxicate the lives of people who turn here for good direction.
This week i learnt that God is always on time for what is meant to be..
Eg.I had a dinner to attend this week out of serious obligation.I HAD to be there but for some reason..nothing seemed to work out..Dress and shoes didn't get to St. Lucia on time..Lots of stuff were just blowing up about the place.However..on the day of the dinner..the dress and everything else still wasn't here..but everything was moving and coming together so that i would attend that dinner. I did.It was fabulous.I got drunk apparently but with responsible friends who'd take care of me.Don't do that though..its stupid..lol.
Any who..to the life filter point right?..I've concluded that we actively need to keep filtering the influences which come into our lives.There will be people and things we come across and we must use our discretion and inner compass to lead us to the right place. It is hard most times..doing the right thing as most times everyone else is doing something else and we can't help but what to do what other people are doing,be where they are,hang with the crowd.We are by nature social beings and acceptance from others is very important,no matter how small or large the group of people we seek it from. However as maturing individuals it is important none the less to filter the persons in your life.Analyse the purpose of the people you have in your life.How do they contribute to your betterment.(a positive contribution..not necessarily anything material). As we grow older,decisions will only become harder as expectations increase and it becomes vital to have as little dead weight as possible hindering your progress and pursuit of self actualization.
It seems callous but given a tough situation,you may find yourself realizing that you need to cut some people loose..especially if they do not genuinely care about you.To be our best selves..much like a plant which needs a conducive environment,we too,as people need an environment which fosters our development.Being among people who constantly take and drain you is not healthy, indeed,it is the natural inclination of some people to want to reach out and be there for everyone,but life will teach you that you cannot save everyone.
Many times in our pursuit to be socialites and part of the in/fun crowd we sell yourself short on our morals and values. We focus on quantity and not quality.We figure perhaps..having lots of friends is a great idea..and indeed it can be..But only if genuine relations exist with those vast numbers.Wanting to be on everyone's good side makes for a great nights sleep i suppose. Life however doesn't always work out that way as there will be people who dislike you just because you are who you are whether or not you offended them in any way-We cannot please everyone..but moreover we cannot people everyone and continuously live our lives dissatisfied.
In the very same way doctors amputate limbs which are sick or diseased..It is okay to cut strings and break off relationships which are unhealthy or risk the spreading of disease to uncontaminated parts..that is..you.It is also important to note that breaking any bond is never really easy and residual feelings and discomfort will remain with you for a while.You may wonder if you're doing the right thing till you realize the benefits of what was once a hard decision. Much like the amputee..you may miss your limb occasionally..that much is expected...But you can only trust that you're better off without it..granted that you concluded that this person or thing was unhealthy and would amount to nothing purposeful in your life..prior to ur decision to cut them off.
We win some and we lose some..but of those we win..it's important that they are true...for as we grow older..we will all realize that its better to have a few true friends..than lots who are not...
Soulfully..Yours
Stella
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